Do You Think Parents Have A Favorite Child - Page 3

mac116 · ‎03-26-2010

We always laughed about this in my family. My brother and I said that our sister was the favorite because she was the oldest. My sister and I said that my brother was the favorite because he was the only boy. My brother and sister said that I was the favorite because I was the baby of the family. The truth was that I think we were all loved equally...no favorite at all.

Shogirl · ‎12-06-2010

Whoever said that parents favor the child who needs it most is right. My mom once told me that she didn't have to worry about me because I was a good kid who could take care of herself. Well, the way that came across to me was that she didn't care about me as much as she cared for my sister, who was a wild child and always seemed to be in trouble. I also thought my mom treated my younger brothers differently (younger than me by 9-11 years). I said something about it once and she said that alot of things she did and said with us older 3 kids she came to realize didn't mean a hill o' beans in the long run. I'm like - REALLY???

So, once all of my siblings got together and discussed our perceptions of growing up and I was shocked that my middle brother always thought I was the favorite. I always thought my younger sister was the favorite. My sister and I both thought my middle brother was a big crybaby (which he really was!)

Family dynamics are so interesting to me!

bri20 · ‎03-10-2016

I have two girls. They both have different personalities. I don't have a favorite, but my youngest allows me to express myself with her in a more open way than my oldest does. My oldest is much more serious than my youngest. We just have a different kind of relationship.

I am extremely close to both of them. They're two different people and have different ways of expressing themselves.

bri20 · ‎03-10-2016

I always felt my mom favored my sister. She always compared the two of us by telling me "why can't you do things the way she does things" which always irritated me.

I made it a point to never compare my girls ever. I never pitted one against the other either

GSPgirl · ‎01-03-2012

Most definitely. My sister was my parent's favorite and she was until my father passed away. My brother and I have always felt it. It affected us growing up. My sis was the oldest child and didn't have many friends, so my mom and dad showered her with attention. This caused them to spend less time with us.

skuggles · ‎11-20-2013

I think they probably do in many instances. If they're real healthy emotionally, they try not to allow this to become known to any child, because they know that children instinctively pick up on this and spend lifetimes trying to become the favorite, if they're not, or taking advantage of being the favorite and feeling guilty about it over the course of their lifetime. Preferred status in families can be a real game changer in harmful ways. Better to show preference to healthier behavior choices.

tansy · ‎01-02-2011

@bri20 wrote:
I have two girls. They both have different personalities. I don't have a favorite, but my youngest allows me to express myself with her in a more open way than my oldest does. My oldest is much more serious than my youngest. We just have a different kind of relationship.

I am extremely close to both of them. They're two different people and have different ways of expressing themselves.

This is actually a very good description of my relationship with my two sons. Now though, the younger son lives nearby and we are just closer because we know what's going on with each other more.

Bottom line is I would take a bullet without thinking for either one.

Drythe · ‎07-09-2011

No, my parents had no favorite.

After age 6 I was their only living child.

"Animals are not my whole world, but they have made my world whole" ~ Roger Caras

CANDLEQUEEN · ‎03-09-2010

@bri20 wrote:
I have two girls. They both have different personalities. I don't have a favorite, but my youngest allows me to express myself with her in a more open way than my oldest does. My oldest is much more serious than my youngest. We just have a different kind of relationship.

I am extremely close to both of them. They're two different people and have different ways of expressing themselves.

That is how I feel too, both of my girls are very different, they are 5 years apart, so as kids they weren't that close, but as adults now the are super close with each other, and I love that!