No because everyone I knew got married very young (like I did) and none of us had any money to start with.
Later in life my late husband became very successful and I always thought women who knew him (through business) might be interested in him because they'd know how successful he was.
He was always all about business and didn't show any interest in other women, just not interested. To be honest most women were intimidated by him just because he was 'all about business' not into small talk, etc. They'd come to me to tell me what the wanted or needed from him (business-wise). I made several new female friends that way! Ha!
Actually, I think that's what happened to my daughter. Her husband became very successful. I think this woman (working in an area where she knew how successful he was) 'worked' on him and ......long story...short...my daughter is now getting a divorce.
I remember one day way before we knew about the divorce she said to me, "Mom, I think I'd about to become a member of the 'First Wives Club'. Not too long after that HE filed for divorce. The interesting thing though is that he'll never marry this woman because the only person he's really interested in is himself....My daughter even said, "I don't blame HER at all. It just happened to be this woman who pushed him. She used every trick in the book" (telling him how great he was)."
But I think that's maybe different from what the OP is talking about.....but I don't know that you can separate the two things very often.
If neither party is married I don't see anything wrong with it. I have to wonder if it would last but (I believe) like all marriages, if you really work at it (the marriage) much of the time you can keep it going. However, some people (especially males because they are usually the successful one's) believe there's something better out there (as in, never truly satisfied).
If you read and believe the 'talking heads' things are slowly changing. As more women become successful and are out in the work-place around others, they are 'messing around' more than ever (straying from the marriage, for whatever reasons).
I tend to think (while women are more likely to marry for money) most of the time they also convince themselves they are also in love with the individual (aside from the individual's money).
I know individuals who have had relationships with males who were successful in order to survive. Much of the time these women have children and are the sole support. Some call them (the polite word is 'ladies of the night') but (knowing the situation) I say, "Judge not, lest ye be judged". I think women are more likely to have relationships like this (one might call it mutual win-win) because I think females have (for want of a better word) a gene that makes them (at all costs) want to care for and protect their children. Sometimes that means doing things they'd have never in a million years thought they'd ever do.
It seems to me (unfortunately) that other women are the worst judges of ...... well...women. It would be nice if this were to change (due to the 'me too' movement).
However, unfortunately, it seems to be the movement is loosing steam. I hear more women attacking other women, for speaking out, lately than in the beginning of this 'movement'. Society has a way of becoming leery of too much....too quickly... Then the 'talking heads' move on to something more salacious. Salacious is often what get's people's attention and can pull them away from the issue at hand....
Salacious sells, unfortunately.
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