Dining Out with Someone - This Bugs Me - Page 6

Noel7 · ‎03-09-2010

@HappyDaze wrote:
@Moonchilde wrote:
I wouldn't dream of comparing my "eating speed" with every other person at the table, every time I dined out, so as not to risk being thought rude.

If someone I was dining with felt moved to tell me they thought I was rude, or declined further get-togethers for such a superficial reason, I would consider myself much better off. If my dining companion doesn't value me for anything more than how well I pace myself compared to them, I certainly haven't lost anything.
Completely agree.

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Me, too! I had no idea there were people at table judging the rate by which everyone else ate compared to them, and considering others rude if they weren't at the same pace.

Irshgrl31201 · ‎03-18-2010

All the super fast eaters I know are either from big families, ex military or had a job in which they didn't get a specific break time. I used to do that being a colorist, I would eat between clients and sometimes I would have 2 or 3 colors going at a time so I had to be quick. It really took me a while to slow down and even now I catch myself eating quickly.

I completely understand what you are saying, you weren't complaining or judging her. The times I have had people finish way before me, I feel like they are in a rush and I am holding them up but that is usually never the case.

Those who make peaceful revolution impossible will make violent revolution inevitable.
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missy1 · ‎03-10-2010

Depends in what you both ordered. If she ordered something hot, she didn't want it to be cold.

Mom2Dogs · ‎03-09-2010

Yes, I would find that situation irritating. I have a friend (s) that leave their phones on and or take calls while eating....which I find rude and one friend in particular eats, pushes her plate away from her and tells all of us how full she while we are still eating.

Now I know, it does not mean the rest of us need to quit eating but, there is no need to announce you have had enough to eat (still plenty of food on her plate) while the rest of us are clearly still eating and want to finish and enjoy what we are eating. It just wants me to eat the rest of my meal really s l o w.........

mousiegirl · ‎03-09-2010

@Hot Street wrote:
I am wondering if anyone else has experienced this when dining out with someone.

Yesterday, I had lunch with a nice lady I recently met. We've been trying for weeks to get together. She's had to cancel three times due to some work being done in her apt unit. We decided to meet and catch up.

When the food came we both were talking, sharing stories and the like. She ate her food so fast. I was so enjoying my lunch but had no intention of wolfing it down. She wasn't in a hurry to leave, but she ate so fast. When she was done, the waitress took her plate and there I am eating alone while she watched which becomes a bit awkward. You feel like you have to eat fast then.

I don't get to go out to restaurants a lot, so this was a treat for me. You can't really tell someone to slow down, but I mean she must have finished her lunch in 5 min! It was so awkward eating by myself. Part of the pleasure of dining out with someone is to enjoy talking and eating and relaxing.

I remember years ago, a friend of mine who used to be a banquet hostess at a big hotel, said a waitress should never clear someone's plate if others at the table are still eating. She said the waiter or waitress should wait until the other party is almost done so it's not uncomfortable as it was with me.

Oh well, I enjoyed my lunch and cleared my plate without wolfing it down. The irony is we sat and talked about 30 min after I was done! I guess everyone is in a hurry these days. My stomach thanked me for not rushing my meal! LOL!

I enjoy eating alone at times in a restaurant... that way I can take my time and enjoy the meal.

Just wondered if anyone else has ever experienced that.

@Black Cat Back A waitress or waiter are not supposed to remove a plate if someone else is still eating, it is rude.

NYC Susan · ‎03-13-2010

@MomCat wrote:
Actually, it wouldn't have bothered me. Everyone I eat with eats faster than me. I'm used to it.

Me too. I'm a slow eater. I always have been, so everyone finishes before me anywhere I go. And that's fine. We're there to enjoy each other's company, and that's what we do regardless of who finishes first, last, or in-between!

Plates shouldn't be cleared until everyone is finished, but it doesn't bother me if they are. That's one of life's little things that isn't worth giving a second thought, IMO. What difference does it make as long as conversation is still going on and everyone is having a good time being together?

In a work situation when I have just a few minutes, I eat as quickly as I can. And at a business dinner, I eat very little and don't linger over my food. But in a setting with friend or family at a restaurant or someone's home, I eat in the way that comes naturally to me, and that's slowly. Everyone finishing before I do is something I'm completely used to.

qualitygal · ‎10-04-2010

@Black Cat Back, this is the truth. My mom ate fast, my father-in-law was a tortoise. He was a slow, methodical person, but it all turned out in perfection. People just eat at different speeds. Glad you had a nice visit. But mom came from a family of 5 kids, 3 large size brothers, and I don't think she talked during a meal.

hckynutjohn · ‎06-15-2015

@HOT Street,

I seldom eat out, by choice, but when I do? If it is a group or 2 other people, they all get done eating before me Not because they eat fast, rather because I take longer to eat.

Why you say? Because I talk more. I haven't mastered a good way of eating and talking simultaneously yet. Do things like this "bug me"? Heavens no, but if you want to talk Cell Phones, I'll leave that for another thread.

hckynut(john)

mimi5775 · ‎03-10-2010

@Hot Street wrote:

@HappyDaze wrote:
@Moonchilde wrote:
I wouldn't dream of comparing my "eating speed" with every other person at the table, every time I dined out, so as not to risk being thought rude.

If someone I was dining with felt moved to tell me they thought I was rude, or declined further get-togethers for such a superficial reason, I would consider myself much better off. If my dining companion doesn't value me for anything more than how well I pace myself compared to them, I certainly haven't lost anything.
Completely agree.

I was just stating an observation. I intend to still be friends with her.. for Pete Sake.

I'm glad we got together and could chat it up after I was finished. Quit reading into something I did not say.

People all over this forum have observations and like feedback. I thought the forums were to share ideas.

Now I'm afraid to submit a recipe in fear I might add too much salt or sugar to mine!

@Black Cat BackTHANK YOU. Goodness.. I have been saying this more and more on the boards feeling bad for others who post and get fearful to speak at times feeling like you. I feel the same on that...

like oh no..I'm next in line for a barrage of critical response's.

It's not just kind to we as members, I enjoy coming here from years ago but it's still the same many a night I pop-on. Sorry, but I am tiring of this baloney and yes, I will still be posting and enjoying the boards if someone says just don't post or ignore the post.

One more thing thing and wonder how others here feel about the giving hearts out. I find the "hearts" are quite endearing - quite kind and sweet but some here - just some..seem as they are acting a tad one-up on a post and even mentioned it too when they had quite a few hearts and were confronted (lol). I can only think of the pecking order, a qlique or both, oh this happens of course on boards but hearts kind are IMHO not necessary, some take them as badge of honor as the one I had noted.. like high ranker..heck they are..they have many hearts!. If they get hearts for helping others etc., and it's a good post great..but sometimes in their posts many a heart will show and it can be negative..a hurtful heart. I feel as much as it's sweet to get that heart..

I think it's not such a good idea long term..maybe if they make a "like" symbol as Facebook has and it's seen privately only to us, that seems more mature in ways, and I think a positive thing. TY for letting me vent.

PS: not against hearts totally but maybe it should be private....hope someone gets what I am saying.

Good day Hot

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I love & miss him so very much. God Bless him and all mom's who ahve lost

Pook · ‎03-20-2010

I usually am finished eatting before most and the main reason is I want to enjoy nice warm food before it cools off. That way I can enjoy conversation and talk without having to eat cold food. I knew a woman who said she gobbles her food because her father was abusive and most times plates would fly so if you didn't eat fast there could be no food to eat.