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Re: Did you grow up with high expectations placed upon yoou?

My mom wanted me to be successful and happy. Smiley Happy
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Re: Did you grow up with high expectations placed upon yoou?

My dad told me to be proud and do the best I could do. If I was satisfied with it, he would be. If I made mistakes or low grades we would talk about it. My life and future was put into my own hands and my parents helped me get there. No pressure except what I put on myself. I did the same with my DD. She is in charge of where she is and where she goes. I'm there to support her and advise.

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Re: Did you grow up with high expectations placed upon yoou?

I was told that as long as I was sure that I had done my very best at everything, they would be happy. However, it was always a foregone conclusion that I would attend college. There was never any doubt that it was the logical progression of my education. They raised me with values, moral compass, and a work ethic. I never tried to live beyond my means because my family never did. I guess their expectations were that I would grow up to be a decent human being with a social conscience, a respect for knowledge, a career, and a healthy respect for the dollar and how far it goes. They succeeded, and I am forever grateful to them. I bought my first house at 30. My dad told me he was so proud of me and what I had accomplished in my lifetime just before he died. I was so glad I had made him proud, so that he knew what a good job he did as my father.

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Re: Did you grow up with high expectations placed upon yoou?

My parents had high expectations for my brothers and I, but we never felt pressured by them in any aspect of our lives. We all grew up to be honest, hard-working, likeable, responsible people, and my parents were happy with how we turned out.

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Re: Did you grow up with high expectations placed upon yoou?

No I wasn't raised with high expectations expected of me. I was raised by loving parents who taught me values and to have integrity like they did. They didn't tell me what road to take, they just wanted me to be happy, healthy, and have values.

I was a bit spoiled. I don't mean that I was a brat or got in trouble and didn't respect my parents, I just mean I had a nice home, clothing, toys, vacations with my family etc. Things other children may not have had. I did not want for anything.

My parents worked very hard in our family businesses to provide for us. Us kids came before their needs or wants. I did the same with my children. I always put them before myself.

And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make~ The Beatles
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Re: Did you grow up with high expectations placed upon yoou?

sfnative: Thank you so much for your kind words!!!! From the sounds of it, you had a bit of a struggle, as well. We have something else in common -- my mother is German, so yes, I am proud of this, and she is a great person, and very strong.

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