Deserved or Earned? - Page 3

KarenQVC · ‎05-13-2010

I don't feel any need to respect a person who has huge character flaws, such as anti-semitism. It is not healthy for a board community to have those kinds of persons present. I don't believe the Q board or any other board should allow it.

IamMrsG · ‎08-29-2010

@AliJoi5 wrote:
@VanSleepy wrote:
The definition of respect is a deep admiration based on abilities, qualities, achievements. Do we really "respect" people the moment we meet them? It kind of does have to be earned if you take it literally.

Hi @VanSleepy - I do understand (and respect... lol) where you're coming from, but Merriam-Webster also defines the verb respect as "to act in a way which shows that you are aware of someone's rights, wishes, etc." I can't speak for anyone else of course, but that's the definition I had in mind when considering OP's question. But however you define the word, I'm enjoying reading everyone's responses... interesting topic.

If I do not respect you, I do not admire you; however, I can still give you courtesy by regarding your rights, wishes, etc.

@AliJoi5 This seems like a good time to tell you I have come to respect your consistently thoughtful, thought filled, posts.

Strive for respect instead of attention. It lasts longer.

Drythe · ‎07-09-2011

An interesting question.

I try to treat all others with dignity, courtesy and respect as we are fellow human beings.

The surest way to lose it from me? Mistreat an animal or someone you consider 'less' than you.

"Animals are not my whole world, but they have made my world whole" ~ Roger Caras

AliJoi5 · ‎03-10-2010

@IamMrsG wrote:
@AliJoi5 wrote:
@VanSleepy wrote:
The definition of respect is a deep admiration based on abilities, qualities, achievements. Do we really "respect" people the moment we meet them? It kind of does have to be earned if you take it literally.

Hi @VanSleepy - I do understand (and respect... lol) where you're coming from, but Merriam-Webster also defines the verb respect as "to act in a way which shows that you are aware of someone's rights, wishes, etc." I can't speak for anyone else of course, but that's the definition I had in mind when considering OP's question. But however you define the word, I'm enjoying reading everyone's responses... interesting topic.

If I do not respect you, I do not admire you; however, I can still give you courtesy by regarding your rights, wishes, etc.

@AliJoi5 This seems like a good time to tell you I have come to respect your consistently thoughtful, thought filled, posts.

Aww shucks... I can only hope that I'm deserving of your respect and that I've earned your praise! (hee hee) Thank you for the very kind words @IamMrsG, and right back atcha my friend!

Puzzle Piece · ‎06-29-2010

How you are raised is one thing, how you choose to make decisions regarding the subject is yours and yours alone.

I have courtesy and consideration for others, but when they behave unworthy of that and loose my good opinion, they do not EARN my respect. For me, folks earn it.

"I'd rather be respected, than considered respectable" - Coco Chanel

Never Forget the Native American Indian Holocaust

AngelPuppy1 · ‎03-13-2010

My parents taught me to respect everyone and that included animals as well. I was taught to especially show respect for my elders. I remember clearly my parents telling me -- treat people as you want to be treated. Not others will treat you as you should be -- but you will know that you have done the right thing. If, after you have treated someone kindly and with respect and they have disrespected you, then I would say, that - yes, they would have to then earn that respect back from you.

"A day without sunshine is like, you know, night." - Steve Martin

Toppers · ‎01-01-2015

@maryebrown wrote:
@VCamp2748 wrote:
I was raised to respect everyone. As an adult, I learned that sometimes people can do, or not do, things that could make me lose respect for them. I also learned that they could earn my respect back. The same has happened the other way around, when I've messed up.

Although you did not ask about trust, I will add a comment about that: for me, trust must be earned.

It's interesting to see here how differently people feel about such things.
I grew up to Respect everyone, also. I agree about your comments about Trust. It has to be earned, and when one breaks it (intentionally) just to further their agenda and/or to Control the mind-set, while steering the Group into Like-Think (and reading PMs), it's time to leave that setting.

No one can read anyone elses PMs on a forum. The only way that this can be done would be if the member forwarded a PM to a moderator to see because they received "spam" in their mailbox, or something like that.

qualitygal · ‎10-04-2010

I think the core of this whole thing, if I understand what made you question on this, is that a simple thank you and a hug goes a long way, even if you can't SAY it. That says a lot!

JMHO but I can respect others and accept them as they are, I hope they do the same for me. But, if your behavior is hurtful and/or mean to others, kiss it good-bye!

60sgirl · ‎11-24-2014

for me. respect means that I promote respectful behavior to people unless they do something that causes me to call it out.

Respecting a person for their job i.e a police officer, their commitment to God i,e, priest/Rabbi and such, a teacher or other person in authority, your coach...these are some of the people I would respect initially without knowing the person first.

But to truly respect someone, takes time to get to know them how they act, how they treat others. That part of respect has to be earned. If you hold a title that equates with respect i.e. priest, and then turn around and your actions say you don't deserve my respect, then I won't give it to you just based on your station in life

I'm done with P.C. Just say what you mean and mean what you say. It's easier.

Hayfield · ‎03-10-2010

I treat people respectfully but that doesn't mean I respect them. I mean, take the people I work with, I have to treat them with respect, I'm polite, I'm a good co-worker, but some of the people I work with I really don't respect at all, some I don't even like but you don't get to choose the people you work with. To truly respect someone, to me, I have to know them, admire them. I was talk to treat respectfully and I do, but how can your truly respect a stranger? In our society today, so many people are just rude, they don't know how to be respectful, or they just don't care.