Describe This Please....

itiswhatitis · ‎05-27-2016

I need different points of view about someone I've come to know. I have come to the conclusion that she is a narcissist. I could be wrong but I'm wondering what you would call someone who is:

Must be the center of attention (all the time)

Needs people to "need her."

Over inflated sense of self importance

Whines all the time about how she is treated by others (misunderstood, people picking on her)

Sneaky and does underhanded things

Not very emphatic towards others. If so, only when it will put her in a good light.

Will cause trouble for some just because she can

I am a firm believer that if there are people you don't get along with well, that you stay out of their way and/or not associate with them. I'm not into drama so it would be no problem for me to drop this person as an associate in a heart beat. I pretty much have, but she hasn't gotten the message yet.

Thanks.

*Call Tyrone*

Cakers3 · ‎06-17-2015

@itiswhatitis I'm not sure what you are looking for. You already determined that this person has all the negative qualities you listed. Whether one needs to refer to her as a narcissist is not relevant.

It's a toxic situation and since you are trying to remove yourself from her company then there really isn't much else to do-unless you want to show her that list.

I find that diagnosing another individual without credentials is only what you see and you may not necessarily be right regarding all those negative qualities.

Only you can keep your distance; eventually she will move on to somebody who can supply what she needs.

"" Compassion is a verb."-Thich Nhat Hanh

cotton4me · ‎03-09-2010

It doesn't sound good. Lol. I realize no one is perfect but this might be a little too much negativity.

itiswhatitis · ‎05-27-2016

@Cakers3 wrote:
@itiswhatitis I'm not sure what you are looking for. You already determined that this person has all the negative qualities you listed. Whether one needs to refer to her as a narcissist is not relevant.

It's a toxic situation and since you are trying to remove yourself from her company then there really isn't much else to do-unless you want to show her that list.

I find that diagnosing another individual without credentials is only what you see and you may not necessarily be right regarding all those negative qualities.

Only you can keep your distance; eventually she will move on to somebody who can supply what she needs.

I have some knowledge, though I don't consider myself credentialed. I am not. They are observations I've made concerning her behavior when in my presence. I don't need someone to agree that she is a narcissist (my opinion) @Cakers3.

As for her keeping her distance (she has not). That's part of the problem. It's like a game to her, almost (imo). I've tried the diplomatic approach, but maybe telling her straight out I don't like her and tell her why would be a good idea too.

*Call Tyrone*

AKgirl2 · ‎05-24-2016

Sorround yourself with people who being out the best in you, and not the worst in you. This has gotten easier through the years😊

cotton4me · ‎03-09-2010

As far as diagnosing people. I tend to look for reasons why someone might be the way there are. It’s just for me personally and I may be wrong, but I find it helpful in possibly understanding them. For instance, my old boss – saw a Larry King show about psychopathic bosses. A light come on, did research. He seemed to fit the profile. It helped me in learning how to deal with him. No harm, no foul.

Pearlee · ‎06-11-2011

@itiswhatitis wrote:
I need different points of view about someone I've come to know. I have come to the conclusion that she is a narcissist. I could be wrong but I'm wondering what you would call someone who is:

Must be the center of attention (all the time)

Needs people to "need her."

Over inflated sense of self importance

Whines all the time about how she is treated by others (misunderstood, people picking on her)

Sneaky and does underhanded things

Not very emphatic towards others. If so, only when it will put her in a good light.

Will cause trouble for some just because she can

I am a firm believer that if there are people you don't get along with well, that you stay out of their way and/or not associate with them. I'm not into drama so it would be no problem for me to drop this person as an associate in a heart beat. I pretty much have, but she hasn't gotten the message yet.

Thanks.

@itiswhatitis Since you haven't posted anything positive in this list, and since you have pretty much gotten rid of her anyway, what difference does it make what we think? IMO you know the answer to what you are asking here already.

game-on · ‎03-22-2010

itswhatitis.... i know it is not easy to disengage from a friendship.... being "up front" isnt always easy.... i wasnt taught to be that way.... however, i have since learned to do this as a survival skill.... and the older i have gotten, i have learned that my energy is less and less.... so i wish you the best .... and hope you can do it....our mental and physical health is important....

itiswhatitis · ‎05-27-2016

@Pearlee wrote:
@itiswhatitis wrote:
I need different points of view about someone I've come to know. I have come to the conclusion that she is a narcissist. I could be wrong but I'm wondering what you would call someone who is:

Must be the center of attention (all the time)

Needs people to "need her."

Over inflated sense of self importance

Whines all the time about how she is treated by others (misunderstood, people picking on her)

Sneaky and does underhanded things

Not very emphatic towards others. If so, only when it will put her in a good light.

Will cause trouble for some just because she can

I am a firm believer that if there are people you don't get along with well, that you stay out of their way and/or not associate with them. I'm not into drama so it would be no problem for me to drop this person as an associate in a heart beat. I pretty much have, but she hasn't gotten the message yet.

Thanks.

@itiswhatitis Since you haven't posted anything positive in this list, and since you have pretty much gotten rid of her anyway, what difference does it make what we think? IMO you know the answer to what you are asking here already.

I haven't got rid of her yet. She's not getting my drift. Like I indicated, I have tried to sever ties with her in a diplomatic way. It's possible I may have to resort to ratchetness @Pearlee.

*Call Tyrone*