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[Daisy Sunflower]

I wouldn't feel bad. If others get upset about it, that's their problem.

Wonder why they chose to get married during a deadly pandemic.

[happycat]

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@KaySD wrote:

@happycat This must be so difficult for you. Yes, I've had to make decisions like this and so,have most of the people I know. 

I feel quite sure you made the best decision for yourself--no need to doubt yourslf. I'm not saying others are wrong to go, but I agree with you that if they are having a large wedding right now, they definitely aren't taking covid seriously. It will be no surprise if people get sick--more of a surprise if they don't. 

Doing what hat is right for you is the best choice you can make!

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I feel terrible honeslty. The nephew is family, he is a good kid. I don't understand why they couldn't have gone to a justice of the peace, then had a nice wedding after covid isn't so rampant. We may never totally get rid of it, I guess. 

[Mindy D]

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@happycat wrote:

I feel bad. A relative is getting married this weekend, we were invited. If it weren't for covid, I'd be there. There were 100 people invited to the wedding.

I told the mom of the groom, that we just weren't comfortable going, that I felt like it would be like playing russian roulette. That I would feel like a heel if I didn't go, but be irritated if I did go and got sick.

First time I have missed a family function, and now I'm second guessing my decicion. I know I made the right decision for my dh and myself though.

Has anyone else run into this? Now I feel like people are mad at me. The bridal couple are very sweet and I think the world of them, but I don't think they are taking covid seriously. 

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@happycat @When it comes to protecting your life, it is much more important than someone being a little upset with you. These people will forget who was or wasn't there. You will not be the only ones not going. Send a lovely gift and card.

[happycat]

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@nana59 wrote:

what state...may i ask...is allowing a crowd of 100 people......

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Arkansas. Our governor is not my favorite person. He had some sort of meeting today with a winter covid task force and he wouldn't let the media in. Now, that sounds to me like they are up to something or know something they don't want the rest of us to know. 

And I don't like fishiness. 

[Ibby114]

@happycat  You made the right choice. Much of the current surge is from smaller family gatherings from the holidays- and 100 attendees is no way a smaller gathering!  It's when people let their guard down is when the problem continues....

I just saw your reply that masks are not required. STAY AWAY!  

[happycat]

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@Lisa now in AZ wrote:

I am going to be the official greeter at a friend's wedding next weekend. There were originally going to be 40 people, but now it is 60. The tables will be socially distanced and assigned to family groups. Since I am not a family member, I will probably sit by myself, but that's fine. Masks are required for the wedding and reception. There are even assigned seats for the ceremony.

There will be about an hour of dancing, but I will just sit and watch, since I don't like to exercise with a mask and I would worry that people will be too close. She has already had people decline and she totally understands.

I wll be so happy when our lives get closer to normal and we don't have to weigh every decision we make.

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Masks will not be required at the one I'm talking about. Not sure if there will be social distancing or not. 

I hope you have a nice time. I will be glad when we get closer to normal also. 

[happycat]

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@mspatmac wrote:

@happycat  For what it's worth I think you made the right decision. I am spending Christmas alone for the first time ever but I'm not comfortable driving to DD and family as they are a young family that are out and about because of work and kids are in school. I am high risk and want to be around for next Christmas. I'll be with them virtually, watching them open gifts etc. 

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I'm sorry you will be spending Christmas by yourself, @mspatmac. It will just be me and my dh. We aren't high risk, but my son and his wife are out and about a lot and both work. My dd is the only one working from home, but her roommate has a job where she has to work with people some. Today, she was told one of the folks she talked to yesterday, tested positive for covid today. They were both wearing masks, but its still a worry. 

I'm glad you will be able to watch your daughters family open their gifts. I'm praying next Christmas is better for us all. 

[kitcat51]

You chose not to go so let it go @happycat. I attended a wedding this summer, it was nicely done with attention to masking & distancing. I'm happy I went to wish the couple well & my attendance doesn't mean I don't take the virus seriously...good grief. 

[conlt]

I feel the same way. I work remote, my boss wanted to have a party next week in the office, Just our office people. I was in a panic because I did not feel comfortable going. Turns out today, 1 of the office people tested positive for Covid yesterday and the party is cancelled. My friends grandfather died 2 weeks ago, he was at home and his daughter came over. She wore a mask, but did not know she had covid and he and his wife contracted it. He died and his wife is in rehab with double pneumonia right now. This virus is nothing to fool around with. 

[Etoile308]

Some people still don't get it, or don't want to.

Some can't see beyond their own hedonistic desires. Some are selfish. Some think the world revolves around them. Normal is taking longer because some have their heads in the sand, or somewhere else.

Rather than someone being upset with you, I would be upset that anyone would want to put a large group of people into a very compromising condition.

Never feel guilty about a decision you made for your safety and peace of mind.