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12-08-2016 09:35 PM
Those "promise me" questions mean nothing to me. My father made me "promise" something that I knew I would never do because he had the means to be sure it happened while he was alive. Putting a person into an assisted living or nursing home can never be promised not knowing the future. If that is what he wants I would tell him to be sure he had the means to see it was done. My children have tried to tell me they would always take care of me and dh I have told them they have a life and if the time ever came that is where I need to be put me there. I saw my fil kept at home because they didn't believe in nursing homes. We lived out of the area and by the time we became involved the poor man had no meaningful life or dignity left. When he went into the nursing home at 94 you should have seen him perk up. He was taken care of, they shaved him, made sure he showered, had regular meals, etc... We were able to be sure he had the necessary appointments there that he needed. I am sorry we were unable to move closer sooner. If he had been mobil with less medical needs I would have happily moved him in with us but it was not possible for me to take care of his special needs.
12-08-2016 09:36 PM
My ma had dementia for 10 years. I myself refused to put her in a home. I believed she would not fit into a group situation. I hired home care.
12-08-2016 09:37 PM
Sometimes they get to where their health won't permit you to keep them at home. I always told my parents that we would take care of them. The older they get, it is sometimes impossible for the kids to care for them due to the aging and health of the kids.
12-08-2016 09:39 PM
I had a feeling this wasn't a legitimate question.
12-08-2016 09:40 PM
The proper care of the Mom is priority and if it comes to pass that the caregiver at home cannot do this, there should be no qualms about putting the Mom into a place where her proper care will be a priority.
Remember being a caregiver is a difficult job and weighs mentally and physically on the caregiver. That person's health is a priority too.
Dad might have made you promise but but he was probably unaware of the mental and physical toll it would take on the caregivers. Follow your gut and do what is best for Mom.
12-08-2016 09:48 PM
@bri20 wrote:I had a feeling this wasn't a legitimate question.
I just feel bad for the people who answer it sincerely and believe the OP is in distress.
12-08-2016 09:50 PM
@Moonchilde wrote:
@bri20 wrote:I had a feeling this wasn't a legitimate question.
I just feel bad for the people who answer it sincerely and believe the OP is in distress.
I agree
12-08-2016 09:52 PM
12-08-2016 09:54 PM
@Lila Belle wrote:
My parents and grandparents have never demanded this of us.
I've seen a commercial that uses this as a heart-tugging ploy or motivation to use their aides to keep mom in her home.
@Lila Belle, a local senior care center uses that line in their radio commercials, which are pretty lame, by the way.
12-08-2016 09:54 PM
I would be honest upfront and tell people right off it was a TV commercial. I think it's dishonest to post something like this, and later say it isn't really me
I asked for help when my mother needed outside help, and appreciated everyone who took the time to tell me their personal story or give advice
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