DOES IT MATTER TO YOU - Page 8

Free2be · ‎03-10-2010

@Goodie2shoes Your husband is a real sweetheart. How lovely that he thought to surprise you and make you smile no matter the day.

SugarPuff · ‎09-20-2017

@rms1954 You deserve love, kindness, respect and compassion. You sound like you treat others with these things. If I knew where you lived I would send you a huge bouquet of flowers that smell as sweet as you sound. You deserve so much more. I hope the days ahead are filled with found happiness. Hugs

Porcelain · ‎02-19-2014

@Goodie2shoes wrote:
whether he gives you a valentine gift on valentines day or days before? I was surprised with a dozen roses, a huge box of chocolates and a very heartfelt valentines card today. I guess I really should not have been surprised because it has happened before. He believes it's best to be early rather than late (retired military man and police officer) I plan on making dinner and dessert for Valentines day because he works late. I love this man so much and he is very very good to me so I just thank him with a big kiss. Anyone else have a guy like that?

Yep. I have a guy like that too. I am really really lucky, plus I picked well. I always tell people, you gotta know how to pick em. The best thing to do when you're as blessed as we are is just appreciate and enjoy the heck out of every moment you can.

My DH doesn't do Valentines early,. He gets up earlier than me most days, so on Valentines I wake up with him putting roses on my nightstand and a bunch of the chocolate I like and a card next to my coffee. He has his romantic Valentines routine and even though I'm not nearly as romancy as he is, I love it every time.

I think we should celebrate the good things. Everyone has something great going on in their life. People who don't have a particluar good thing or experience can at least know it's possible for an everyday person just like them to have it, or have it again in the future.

When you’re accustomed to privilege, equality feels like oppression.
"Power without love is reckless and abusive, and love without power is sentimental and anemic." - Dr. Martin Luther King Jr

Sooner · ‎03-10-2010

@Marp You hit the nail on the head. After being on these boards literally since the beginning, I am sick and tired of being beaten up by exactly what you posted.

There are too many mean and ugly people around to make it worth while any more, and too many who bully people here are are allowed to do so--especially the seeming aim of one poster here to promote her political agenga and ruin a lot of otherwise snesible and good information posted.

I think I am about out--if not out all together. I would miss many people, but I find the uglies too prevelant. and too forceful these days. The bullies are allowed to roam free.

I sad about it, but I can't continue to read it and just get upset. Or tune in to read that anyone with a medical problem simply brought it upon themselves. . .

@Marp wrote:
@ahoymate wrote:

hopi, & other, whoever:
It's not a bad day or depression it's how some women like to elevate themselves at others expense. Surely, you are old enough to have experienced this? High school behavior.
Dear Q posters, it is clear we need some new board rules starting with:

No posting about anything that makes you happy because your happiness might make someone else sad.

Don't post about anything sad or upsetting because it might make someone else feel even worse.

Don't post anything neutral because well, just because.

Don't post! However, rest assured that not everyone will follow this rule so inevitably there will be inquiries and speculation as to why you are no longer posting completing the circle.

spiderw · ‎06-14-2010

You are very fortunate and it is an uplifting post!!!! It takes two to make a relationship work so you must be as special to him as he is to you!

I have several friends who have been married for fifty years which always makes me feel marriages can last. My own didn't but I am fine being on my own and used to it. I have a loving family and great close friends and that is a blessing for me.

Happy Valentine's Day!

Porcelain · ‎02-19-2014

I'm sorry you feel bad, @ahoymate. And I imagine you are just trying to look out for the feelings of anyone who is newly widowed or otherwise heartbroken or lonely. And I think that sentiment is really beautiful.

So thank you for caring about people who are often overlooked on Valentines Day. Sending you and everyone you're thinking about some of my extra warm fuzzy virtual hugs. I got plenty to share for all of us.

When you’re accustomed to privilege, equality feels like oppression.
"Power without love is reckless and abusive, and love without power is sentimental and anemic." - Dr. Martin Luther King Jr

Goodie2shoes · ‎04-30-2012

@phoenixbrd wrote: I just read a convoluted message where I was criticized for my response to your post. If in any way you felt offended by my response, I just want you to know that was never my intention. My life is led by kindness and woud never intentionally hurt anyone.

My post was just asking a fun question as to whether anyone else had a significant other who did what my guy does. I was not trying to brag and I have read every post appreciating all feedback with happy responses about what their significant other does and not so happy responses. My heart goes out to those who told sad stories of their past because I have also experienced a unhealthy relationship as I mentioned in a previous post a few pages back. I appreciate your note because I would never intentially try to hurt anyone here. I am living my best life and wish nothing but the best for everyone.

Free2be · ‎03-10-2010

Discussions for women about love can be fraught with emotions. There is "now" which may be wonderful or not so great, then there are the old histories of loves, marriages, divorces -- memories that are dredged up. It's no wonder a group of women have difficulty getting through a thread without some lashing out For some, just getting through life with their sanity intact is a win. We don't know anyone's personal circumstance.

For those who get through Valentine's with good feelings, enjoy it to the max. To all others, it's another day of no import. Either way, we should be good to ourselves.

Goodie2shoes · ‎04-30-2012

@Free2bewrote:

Discussions for women about love can be fraught with emotions. There is "now" which may be wonderful or not so great, then there are the old histories of loves, marriages, divorces -- memories that are dredged up. It's no wonder a group of women have difficulty getting through a thread without some lashing out For some, just getting through life with their sanity intact is a win. We don't know anyone's personal circumstance.

For those who get through Valentine's with good feelings, enjoy it to the max. To all others, it's another day of no import. Either way, we should be good to ourselves.

Very well said !