DOES IT MATTER TO YOU - Page 10

proudlyfromNJ · ‎05-01-2010

@jubilant wrote:
@Sooner

I hope you won't count yourself out for several reasons. We need all the good people here we can get lest those that like to cause turmoil outnumber us.

Of course, I realize people need to do what they think is right for them.... but first I think we should ask ourselves this...Am I going to let someone (who is obviously either trying to cause dissention or is possibly so dysfuntional they can't understand happy people and may even be jealous of them) get under my skin? Why should we let their crude opinons take up any space in our minds.

I sure hope you will reconsider and either stand up against these people, ignore them, or both!!

@jubilant Who are these people of which you speak that need to be stood up against?

Lipstickdiva · ‎03-10-2010

DH and I long ago quit doing anything for Valentine's Day. No card, no candy, no flowers. We will probably go to a local Mexican restaurant for dinner, not because it's VD, but because that's what we do on Friday after work.

jubilant · ‎06-10-2010

@proudlyfromNJ

I guess "stand up against" wasn't the best choice of words. What I was thinking is that if all of us leave when we are offended, I don't think there would be one of us left so I would like to see us either ignoring the people who are the instigators and troublemakers or letting them know how you feel and then not arguing with them. To me that is the best way of "standing up" for yourself and others you may feel are being treated poorly. Not too much fuss because that is just what some of them want.

proudlyfromNJ · ‎05-01-2010

@jubilant wrote:
@proudlyfromNJ

I guess "stand up against" wasn't the best choice of words. What I was thinking is that if all of us leave when we are offended, I don't think there would be one of us left so I would like to see us either ignoring the people who are the instigators and troublemakers or letting them know how you feel and then not arguing with them. To me that is the best way of "standing up" for yourself and others you may feel are being treated poorly. Not too much fuss because that is just what some of them want.

@jubilant If I read something I don’t like I usually say something. I see many things here that are not allowed but they are still posted. And I will post back. I see political posts all the time. Supposedly they are not allowed. I see indignant posts about people that are different than the norm. And again I will post back.

Instigators and troublemakers should be reported.

rms1954 · ‎06-06-2019

@Tinkrbl44 wrote:
@rms1954 wrote:
I don't know why the poster would ask a question like that but I'd like to think it was for no other reason than to share. I am glad if you feel loved and cared for and if you don't then I am sorry but hope you can overcome your sadness.

It is the most important thing to have a person who can express their love through respect, kindness, and compassion towards you.

I've been married for close to 35 years to someone who shows none of those things. Six months after we were married he showed his true colors. It was like night/day. The only thing consistant about him is he always lets me down.

Last year I lost my Mom who was emotionally and physically abusive. She showed me no love or support. She reminded me on a day-to-day basis that I was worthless. And up until the age of 18 when I got married and moved out, I heard every day that I was useless and undeserving of love. I am one of six children and she didn't treat any of them that way. I kept it to myself all these years. I was in therapy for a couple years and had depression and PTSD. The other day my husband made the comment "your mother was right." So no it wouldn't matter to me if he treated me to something a couple days before Valentine's Day, but to others it might.

Cherish being with someone who can shower you with love, no matter what day it is.

Wishing ALL of you love.

@rms1954

You really don't have to answer me, but your post really startled me. Why in Heaven's name would you ever stay with a man like this?

Keep in mind ... NOTHING in single life is as bad as a bad marriage.

Yeah, I was waiting for that. I know what some are thinking. It's "her" fault for staying.

Not looking for pity or to be judged and I don't want to have to defend myself. I shared because of where I am and when I began reading the post I felt I wanted to comment. It helps to share, so I've been told. Have a happy day

RedTop · ‎09-01-2010

We observed this holiday more when our girls were small, but outside of a wish and a kiss, it’s just Friday to us.

I did buy mom a heart shaped box of Russel Stover nut assortment chocolates yesterday.

jeanlake · ‎03-10-2010

The most important thing for me is hubs and I are on the same page. We celebrate events and holidays in our own way and I love it. No expectations on surprising one another with gifts. No one gets feelings hurt. We're practical but also know how to be generous. Hubs offered to take me out to dinner tonight and I thought -- 6 degrees / Friday night / Valentine's Day date night. Nope - we'll hang out and watch a Netflix movie and chat. We're around a lot of people together and I love when it's him and I chillin'.

"I took a walk in the woods and came out taller than the trees." Henry David Thoreau

Sapphiregal · ‎04-08-2019

I have been married 50 years to an old bah humbug kind of guy. He is the same as his Dad was - never expresses or shows anyone any kind of love or caring. It used to bother me - I felt like I was missing out on an important part of life. I no longer want any affection or love from him. I wish I had left him 40 years ago. Maybe I could have had a much more meaningful life.

For those of you that have husbands that make you feel loved...treasure it.

Dogs are God's most perfect creatures. Angels here on earth to teach us to be better humans.

Tinkrbl44 · ‎08-23-2010

Yeah, I was waiting for that. I know what some are thinking. It's "her" fault for staying.

Not looking for pity or to be judged and I don't want to have to defend myself. I shared because of where I am and when I began reading the post I felt I wanted to comment. It helps to share, so I've been told. Have a happy day Smiley Happy

@rms1954

No ... no ... no .... so sorry if it was taken that way, but I wasn't blaming you or asking you to defend yourself. I was just genuinely curious.