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[Shorty2U]

This isnt about me, this is about my husband. I feel SO bad for him. Once again my Mother in law strikes.

Every year (like clock work) she calls a few months before Christmas to recommend (or shall I say BOSS) what gifts to get for my husbands sisters and their families. (we dont listen we buy what we want). This is generally the only time she calls. (Although she did call this year from time to time and say she was coming 10 times!!!! and then cancelled after WE cleaned the house TEN times).

But it is now TWO days till Christmas and she never called about Christmas dinner and exchangng gifts. She does this every year to my husband. I am FED up now, fed up to here! He doesnt worry, and if she doesnt call at all, he will probably call her tomorrow. (which I wouldnt do, if it were up to me, Id say oh we didnt know you were having anything and stay HOME out of spite). But he would never do this.

We even rearrange our entire holiday and go to my daughters Christmas Eve (with my family) and never on Christmas, because we know his mother calls last minute to say are you coming for Christmas? How much more last minute can you get? Its TWO days left!Then if she calls, she will call crying are you coming? (Cry me a river!)

The reasons Ive had it now. When she does call, all she does is talk about his sisters and their families and their stuff. (I am sure his sisters know what time to come and about Christmas too!). But she NEVER asks how we are. She has NO clue that my husband is now on a daily breathing machine for asthma and cant see at night to drive anymore. (hes legally blind w out his glasses and one day he will go blind). Yes he works but he has some health issues and so do I. Well we dont bother to burden them or cry to them, because SHE does enough of that about his sisters/families.

In addition; My husbands family never visit us, (except ON our wedding day). They live further away, BUT they are in PERFECT health (all of them) and they come here to stores and that right near by (because they mention this @ Christmas). ANd they have been invited here more than once and are MORE than welcome.

Well anyway...My husband is the most loving, kindest, caring person on the face of this earth and he deserves more consideration than a last minute phone call about Christmas Day visits and plans IMO. He never did anything to them. He never argues with anyone! He doesnt deserve to sit here waiting for the phone to ring. Like I said, it doesnt bother him and maybe I shouldnt get so upset. But I love my husband more than life itself and Im sick of his rude disfunctional family!

Lastly, I often think, IF I werent here my husband could be laying here sick or worse and none of his family would ever know it because his mom is the only one who calls and that is at Christmas (and IMO its to GET gifts only!).

I even told my kids and brother (because I thought I was overreacting) and they agree with me. They never saw anything like it. My family all always bothers with each other and are close. To us this is NOT normal behavior. But I will keep quiet because I am a nice person, even though I feel like telling his mother off once and for all for making an $#@ out of my husband once again!

End of rant. Merry Christmas to all.