DEALING WITH NEW NEIGHBOR - Page 4

Anita Hug · ‎03-22-2015

As others have suggested, you do not have to become buddies with your neighbors. But I also think it's a very good idea to accept the invitation so you can get acquainted with them. There are all kinds of situations where neighbors might need to get in contact with each other. While I am not friends with most of my neighbors, I've exchanged phone numbers with several of them.

I was very appreciative when a neighbor called me to let me know that there were older kids going over my fence into my yard after dark. I noticed water pouring out from under the garage door of another neighbor last year. Their water heater tank had burst open, and they had no idea until I called them. And more than once a neighbor had planned a party or family reunion, and they let us know - and apologised in advance for any noise.

I LOVE my privacy, and most of us prefer to keep to ourselves. Still, it is less awkward to approach them later (if there is a problem) once you have established a friendly history with them.

occasionalrain · ‎03-10-2010

I dislike pushy people. While the OP's new neighbors may be just nice friendly people, they may also have an agenda. If she would rather not have coffee, she should just tell him some other time and that she will let them know, then forget about it.

As for the widow, she can just look the other way but they can see her leave, know she lives alone, and her apartment is empty.

SXMGirl · ‎07-07-2010

I also keep to myself but am friendly with my neighbors. We do not get together for coffee, but my one neighbor has already told me that I always have a standing invitation to anything going on at their home. While I do not take them up on it, I know that I could get help from them if needed.

I have found that as I get older, I think about what could happen and who would I call for a serious situation since I have no family nearby. I always hope that everyone has someone to call on if they ever have a serious need.

My suggestion is to have coffee with the neighbors and take some cookies with you. It is easy to explain that you do not socialize very much but you are looking forward to them being your neighbor. Keep it casual. The most important thing is to let them know that you are there, which could also be very important to them. We never know what is going to happen.

The next time that I hear salt and ice together, it better be in a margarita!

BlingQueen022 · ‎09-23-2012

I wish I had a neighbor invite me for coffee. That's the problem in America today everybody is only into me and only me. What a shame.

BlingQueen022 · ‎09-23-2012

@Tinkrbl44 wrote:
@pdlinda

Frankly, I don't think having a quick cup of coffee with these people will cause you to be joined at the hip with them!

I've no idea as to how many friends and family you have nearby, but as you're getting older, who would you call if you had a medical emergency? Having neighbors on a first name basis could actually save your life some day!

I admit I'm thinking long term, but you just never know. I see no reason why you can't maintain a simple "hello / goodbye" greeting relationship with them, even if you do have coffee with them. Insert into t

EXACTLY!!!!

Tinkrbl44 · ‎08-23-2010

I am HALF joking when I say this .....

Check these new people out so you can rule out that they aren't terrorists! Law enforcement says "If you see something, SAY something."

Someone in the neighborhood should check these new people out ... it might as well be you.

shell garden · ‎04-28-2015

@occasionalrain wrote:
I dislike pushy people. While the OP's new neighbors may be just nice friendly people, they may also have an agenda. If she would rather not have coffee, she should just tell him some other time and that she will let them know, then forget about it.

As for the widow, she can just look the other way but they can see her leave, know she lives alone, and her apartment is empty.

How in the world is an invite for a cup of coffee being pushy? Geez, louise....I think it is nice and a way of just getting to know your neighbors. That is not pushy at all. Some people's paranoia is not the way to have a safe neighborhood. Knowing your neighbors, making them feel welcomed until they prove themselves otherwise is always the best way to go.

ValuSkr · ‎03-15-2014

@SaRina wrote:
Maybe you could replace your kitchen window with something tinted where you could see out clearly, but people can't see in. ??

I like this idea. Put blinds (as in "Venetian blinds" - are they still called that?) on your kitchen window. Then you can see out and they can't see easily in.

ValuSkr · ‎03-15-2014

@pdlinda wrote:
To clarify: The configuration of the bldg is on an "angle" so the kitchen windows face each other. My kitchen window blind is drawn. The only issue I have with their raised blind is when I leave to go out and can see directly into their home.

Maybe they want you to see in? Some people are like that.

If you visit for coffee, just be careful. Don't want them to slip something in your drink, if you know what I mean.

Plaid Pants2 · ‎03-14-2015

@pdlinda wrote:
To clarify: The configuration of the bldg is on an "angle" so the kitchen windows face each other. My kitchen window blind is drawn. The only issue I have with their raised blind is when I leave to go out and can see directly into their home.

So, during that brief second that you pass by their window, don't look!

Easy-peasy, lemon squeezy!

Problem solved!