Community Chat

[pdlinda]

I am friendly with my upstairs neighbor who' s been here for over 3 years.  She is a professional woman who is "out and about" just like I was when I was working.

If any emergency arose, she would be the one I called immediately and she knows she can do the same with me.  Even my family has her tel # so if, for any reason, they can't reach me, they'd call her.

I'm also "friendly" with a downstairs neighbor who is retired.  However, we exchange pleasantries and have never socialized beyond that.  I also have her # and wouldn't hesitate to call her if the need arose.

[IMissSuperPoke]

I would avoid glancing at their window. If you get asked again, it might be interesting to go & see what kind of neighbors you have, unless they are trying to invite themselves into your apartment then I would not let them in. It's not like you ever have to get together again & better to be on good terms rather than bad. Little things can build up, then it's even more uncomfortable.

[SharkE]

Wonder why the man came over to ask you to have coffee why not the both of them? 

[SeaMaiden]

Having coffee is  not a commitment to a close friendship.   But it is your choice to make. You are not obligated to say yes.  Perhaps they just want to introduce themselves to their neighbor.  Some people are just friendly.

[Ruthie-Roo]

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@Qshopper1991 wrote:

Have coffee with him one time.  Make sure you smell like a polecat and when offered a drink or food, let it drool out of your mouth.  Clear your throat and bring up some mucus - really gross him out.  Then excuse yourself and as you leave, fart or belch real loud.

I'll guarantee he'll NEVER invite you over again 

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@Qshopper1991  Oh..... my....goodness!!  ROFL!!!!!!  Thanks, Me24, for the laughs.  Your idea is a good one, to tuck away for future reference, should I face this same dilemma.  

[pdlinda]

I have no idea why the man came over without his wife.  They seem to be retired and their comings and goings reflect that situation.  Also, the wife spoke limited English.

[IamMrsG]

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pdlinda wrote:  To clarify:  The configuration of the bldg is on an "angle" so the kitchen windows face each other.  My kitchen window blind is drawn.  The only issue I have with their raised blind is when I leave to go out and can see directly into their home.  

Do you have to look?  Is what you see offensive?  

[Qshopper1991]

 @Ruthie-Roo

I had a good friend of mine do this.  She was newly divorced and a guy had just moved in across the street from her.  He was a good looking, married man and kept coming on to my friend.  So I gave her that advice.  And it worked like a charm.  He never bothered her after that. 

She did kick it up a notch.  She took a fast acting laxitive; and when she went to pass gas, she passed the real deal instead - all over his cream colored carpets!!  He started gagging and had to run to the bathroom.  She took off and that was the end of that.  We still laugh about it to this day!!

[SharkE]

[shell garden]

Awww, geez louise....go over and have a cup of coffee with your new neighbors.  While I can understand you do not want to socialize, that is fine....but you should at least be cordial and go have coffee.  This would also give you an opportunity to let your new neighbors in on what the neighbors are like around this complex, such as just what you stated.....you keep your blinds closed and there is not much socializing,etc.  I am sure your new neighbors would like to know about the ins and outs about what their neighbors (including you) are like.

We had a very young couple (wife expecting) move in next door to me about 2 months ago.  I saw them and immediately went over and introduced myself and welcomed them to the neighborhood.  Then I proceeded to let them know how who lived where around them....and also let them know we all "took care of and looked out for each other".  The young man said, "could we be included in that circle too?? and I said, "of course"!!! A few days later, when most of my neighbors were outside....and the new couple were also outside, I introduced them to all that live around us.  Yes, I am rather outgoing and wanted them to feel welcomed.  But, even if I wasn't outgoing, I had rather know who my neighbors are.....get them introduced to everyone and feel safer than not knowing who they are and have them feel unwelcomed.  You never know when you may need your neighbor for something....so GO GET THAT CUP OF COFFEE AND MAKE YOURSELF AND YOUR NEIGHBORS FEEL GOOD.