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[lovesallanimals]

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@Mom2Dogs wrote:

@lovesallanimals ...I tend to feel like you do about death, and what to do when that time comes....I am bothered about what to do with the ashes...and if you bury them at a cemetery.....no service at all when that is done?  I sometimes think there should be a short service with a prayer....I go back and forth about what to do.  

 I have no kids, little family, DH has two kids, and I think they will go along with what their dad and I plan....there will certainly be no viewing, funeral etc...

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momtodogs:  I also do not have any children, my husband has two from a previous marriage.  I know this might sound strange but we discussed what we should do with the ashes. We do not want them scattered and to be lost in the wind or wherever.  When our dog passed, her ashes were put in a beautiful old fashioned tea tin (from our vet).  We might do the same with each other. This is such a delicate and personal subject but I would feel comforted knowing his ashes were near me.  We don't belong to any church or synagogue and we do not want a rabbi or priest, who never knew us, to say a prayer as that would be kind of meaningless to us.

[colliemom4]

You can be cremated and still have a service if you'd like. You can have your ashes scattered in your favorite place also. I've known several people that had their ashes scattered over mountains, rivers etc.

[Anonymous032819]

Creamation.

I don't want a service.

Instead, have a party, share stories, laugh.

Scatter my ashes somewhere overlooking a beach.

[jannabelle1]

@cbrite, I'm sorry you find this topic unacceptable, and I can understand it's not something everyone wants to discuss. That said, there are some of us who have small families or no families, no children, etc., and there really aren't many places to talk about this issue. The women who participate in this forum have found others who share similar situations or concerns. I'm very thankful to find this topic and discussion related to it. Reading through the comments and thoughts about this personal topic has helped me, and I appreciate that. If this isn't a topic for you, then just move on to the next topic that is of interest to you. Those of us who find the topic helpful will continue to comment.

[Mom2Dogs]

@jannabelle1 ...well said, you did a much better job than I did!

[ItsME]

Cremation for me.  SO wants to be buried in Arlington.  Maybe they can put my ashes in with his casket.  We'll have to look into that.  Either way, I want the remains of my four-legged babies to be boxed or scattered with me.  

I'm with those who don't want a funeral.  I believe that you should be there for the person in life.  That is when you're needed.  

I don't mind eulogies, if they are given by someone who really knew the person.  In fact, I find them interesting!  Just not necessary for me.

[sissel]

The will is done, both cremation even tho we have plots back east. I don't want a lid on me even with cremation. We have a nice lake fine with me. Sometimes the funeral isn't the problem it's what happens if you mental or psychical can't take care of yourself. Assit living is in the will, my daughter knows & the will is made. We don't want to be a burden to her. 

[SXMGirl]

I am thinking seriously about the Body Farm.  Dress me up and leave me to the elements.

[software]

I'm going "traditional" all the way.   No cremation for me.

It's all arranged and paid in full.

The only detail still up in the air is what I'll wear

DH was an avid hunter, he requested to be dressed in camo.

To explain, he had hunting camo and he had "dressy" camo.

He looked very nice.

I hope my funeral is a celebration of my amazing life here on earth.

My kids have my instructions, they will thank me later - after I'm gone