Could You Turn Your Child In - Page 3

Chrystaltree2 · ‎12-08-2014

@blackhole99 wrote:
Without a doubt, it just shows what kind of a person you really are. I know kids do stupid stuff, but they must learn to take responsibility for their actions or they will continue to make bad choices and be worthless in society.

....sounds like you aren't a mother.

jubilant · ‎06-10-2010

Remember...... OP specifically used the word crime.

luvdoodles · ‎06-19-2010

I totally agree with your opinion. I could not, in good conscience, let something like that go. I have never been in that position and hopefully never will be. My daughter who is now almost 28 would feel too guilty not to tell the truth. She has good morals and values. I feel that parents that cover for their kids are just as guilty as the one who did the crime. They are not doing them any favors by covering for them.

aprilskies · ‎03-09-2010

It would definitely depend on the crime. I am one that thinks some of our laws should be updated. ....and by people around the table that aren't passing the pipe.

Chrystaltree2 · ‎12-08-2014

@jubilant wrote:
Remember...... OP specifically used the word crime.

.....which means nothing, Stealing a $4 bottle of nail polish is crime. There are countless "crimes" on the books. If I had a child who committed murder or spousal abuse or molested a child; I would turn my child in. If my child stole a car or got in a bar fight, I probably wouldn't turn them in.

MomCat · ‎09-12-2010

@Chrystaltree2 wrote:
@blackhole99 wrote:
Without a doubt, it just shows what kind of a person you really are. I know kids do stupid stuff, but they must learn to take responsibility for their actions or they will continue to make bad choices and be worthless in society.

....sounds like you aren't a mother.

Wow. So, you wouldn't do the right thing under any circumstances? Is it because you would have to admit you failed as a parent? Or, are you of criminal mind yourself? Being able to make hard decisions certainly says who you are, and NONE of us would ever want to have to make this one.

jubilant · ‎06-10-2010

I think if you start young in kids they will be less apt to commit crime. I realize there are exceptions to that rule.

I remember setting in class and hearing my name called over the loud speaker saying...."Will Jubilant please come to the office" (it was a big high school....600 kids in my graduating class) and everyone heard it!! I couldn't imagine why I would ever be called into the principle's office and I felt embarrassed. I walk into the office and there sits my mother of all people! The school counselor was there, too.

Mom had found absent notes written by me with her name signed to them. I have to admit...I had her name down to a tee when I forged her signature. The school counselor was there. I had never been in trouble before so I was mortified.

I was angry with her and when I got home from school I told her she had no business going through my things. That argument didn't fly! I never skipped school again after that incident and never ever signed another persons name to what I wrote. What I am trying to say is..... crime can begin with seemingly "little things" that, if addressed early, could avoid trouble in the future.

Gemmy · ‎03-13-2010

Yes - And I did. My child got hooked on drugs and stole from us. I knew it was him and called the police. He went to jail for 90 days but got off the drugs and is doing great now - 3 years later. Married with 3 children. It was very hard for me to do but I did it for his own good. He and I have no regrets.

KingstonsMom · ‎03-09-2010

Been there, turned her in and it was one of the most valuable lessons I ever taught her.

DD was about 13, spending the night with her 15 y.o. friend and they went to the store with her friend's grandmother.

While they went off in a different direction, they decided to steal some cheap jewelry.

It wasn't until after they got back home that their 'stash' was discovered and the friend's mother called to tell me what they had done.

I immediately went over to the friend's house and we took them and their loot to the store, met with the store manager and store security and returned the items.

My DD was mortified and crying her eyes out, her 'friend' wasn't even fazed and showed no remorse. That was the end of that friendship.

Lucky for them, the store decided not to prosecute them, but DD learned a lesson that she's never forgotten.

But she didn't get off scott-free with me.....grounded, lost privileges, etc., but as an adult she told me that the worst punishment from that incident was the look of disappointment on my face.

You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.