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[haddon9]

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@SoonerLater wrote:

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@Kitty Galore wrote:

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@Sooner wrote:

Other than my husband, my family is all gone.  But I am thankful that I had them, appreciate and treasure those times, but don't think so much about it that it gets me down.  Why would I?  Life goes on.  Live it or miss out!

There are still things to enjoy and do, and. it is different, but I'm still here and I'm going to make the most of every minute I can, especially as long as hubby and I are together!  But we have assured one another that someday life will go on single--and we've promised to do the best we can even then.

I can't predict the future, I can't live in the past, but today is a blessing to be savored.  

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@Sooner @You have a wonderful attitude on life !    Live while your here ,  each day IS present !😺

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@Kitty Galore I can't take credit for it--the way I look it is as long as I can give thanks to my maker I can go forward.  

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@SoonerLater Still....it's a great attitude to have.  One could let themselves get depressed about that particularly when you might see others in real life or on TV being surrounded by family for the holidays.

I think it's the way you let yourself think...I have been on both sides and have let depression get me down but have also been fortunate to be able to let myself think positively.  I just need to remind myself of how fortunate I am.

[LadyAlice]

@Jordan2 - My thoughts and prayers are with you. Feeling lonely is a terrible feeling at any age or at anytime. There are also kind people of all ages that do show empathy toward others, whether by words or even just a smile. You never walk alone. God bless you. LadyAlice ❤️🙏

[on the bay]

@Jordan2,

I know from all your posts you seem to be a very caring and sensitive person.

I hope I didn't make you feel that you were not in any way.

I know what you are saying. It is a sad feeling to miss so many and feeling lonely from missing so many that were there in the past esp at holidays can be hard.

I hope you and any others too will feel not so alone with some company here, or just enjoying our own company!

A few days ago I was thinking that somehow I think I have to think of death differently. Especially since yes as we get older, so many leave. I know there is sadness and grief but somehow to think of it not so much as loss forever but a continuing just in a different realm you know?

Just getting used to this new relationship and not being able to see or talk to someone here with us otherwise not being able to bear it!

I like to believe there definitely is heaven and that somehow we can still experience the love and comfort of those we have lost-not just memories but a real experience just different. Like we get to have a relationship with them while they are in heaven and we are on earth.

I hope that doesn't sound too out there just that I have experienced it and wish I could experience it more all the time.

The Native Americans had maybe more gentle views of death-all part of life as we all know it kind of thing.

Anyway, I'm glad even if for awhile we can "talk" to each other on here and share our thoughts.

I'l be thinking of you esp these holidays!

I like watching Christmas movies to make me happy and help to forget for awhile the sad things.

[ID2]

I'm trying to think of a caring way to say what I want to say. Perhaps the OP should seek counseling. She clearly is depressed. If she becomes offended because a young person enjoys the holidays, then I feel it's time to seek help. At least someone for her to talk to. 

[Jordan2]

@on the bay don't worry about what you said, it's all good. Let me say she didn't offend me in anyway. It's just that for a lot of people the holidays can be trying. In the span of a month you get Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukah, and New Years, one after another. I am sure I'm not the only one who feels this way. 

[agb80]

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[Greeneyedlady21]

@on the bay You are a lovely person

[on the bay]

Aw thank you @Greeneyedlady21.

That means a lot to me and I feel the same about you! I do

[Gorgf]

@Jordan2  I think you would be surprised how many of us are alone for Holidays. It was more difficult the first few years after my divorce. I went to a Community Christmas dinner and saw families  yet again, single Dad with his children. Then I figured everyone else I know has their activities  and families. I slowly got used to that is the way It is and will be and make the best of it.

As suggested make it special for yourself. Cook if you feel like it or not. Give yourself a treat. For me it is Oyster Stew as a Christmas Eve tradition. 

I dont have to deal with arguments and people drinking too much. My cousin through marriage said he hated to see his adult kids as they drink and fight. Pressure going from house to house trying to please others with the perfect gift.

One new neighbor said she and her husband bought a larger home so the kids can come  visit and said they aren't coming for Thanksgiving. Just the two if them she said.

I  just acknowledge that others have their get togethers and wish them well. Please know you are not alone and other people with families  don't understand and identify with your feelings of loss. 

Our Community has Operation Christmas in that three churches give  out 300 Food Boxes and gifts for children. I take alot of teen age girls gift tags as have those products in a kit I don't like or use from Q that make great $10+ gifts. Keeps me busy. I have the time with no family so do more volunteer activities as others are so busy and stressed. I relax and enjoy my Holidays as no pressures and hope you are able to also. 

[deepwaterdotter]

@Gorgf Love your attitude and volunteer work.  Thank you for helping.