Community Chat

[Karie2022]

I witnessed two very nice acts of chivalry by some gentlemen this week; maybe to some this is no big deal, but I have to say I rarely see this anymore, including in my own personal life with my own dh; an older gentleman got out of his car and grabbed his umbrella, it was pouring here the other day, and I watched him walk over to the other side of his car and hold the umbrella over his wife as she exited the car and they proceeded to walk into the store, the whole time holding the umbrella over his wife.

the other was a man holding the door open for his wife at a store and then waiting for me so I could enter as well...I guess I'm old fashioned, I love acts of chivalry and good manners...of course this goes both ways...it's nice when both sexes are well mannered and think of others....i try to tell my kids this frequently, look up from your phones,  you never who you may be able to help one day...just my observations.😊

[blackhole99]

My husband is considerate like  that and so is my son, I do see young men and children out and about on occasion with very good manners. Again, parents need to train their kids and maybe there should be an Etiquette course taught in school since the parents either don't have time or do not know any better themselves. 

[BirkiLady]

My husband always held the car door and store doors for me (not just in inclement weather). My son does that same for my DIL. My grandson is being raised to do the same for his mom, me,  and his other grandmother. Doubt the umbrella has ever happened since none of us ever carry one! 

Good manners are important from both sexes. Females need to be thoughtful, as well. 

[Oznell]

It's great to note and comment on acts of chivalry as you have, @Karie2022.!   Helps counterbalance the other less desirable, sometimes churlish conduct we all come in contact with from time to time.

Good for you for noticing these quiet little acts!

[Drythe]

@Karie2022 

I vote YES!

[SunSprite]

Those little random acts of thoughtfulness/kindness are the kind of things that can completely turn someone's day around. 

And sometimes it's the person that witnesses it that finds their day suddenly brighter . 

When my kids were growing up I used to tell them that being polite, kind, and well-mannered will open doors for you in ways you might not expect. Never underestimate the power of being thoughtful. 

It's one of those really cool things that benefits the giver, and the recepient. 

[smb3]

As a teacher, some of the young boys recently have held doors for me, even waited until I got up to the door.  I thought, wow somebody raised you well.  I always praise them and tell them what good manners, etc.  It is so nice to see!

[Snowpuppy]

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@Goldengate8361 wrote:

These are just simple acts of everyday politeness, not chivalry. Chivalry, in my opinion, is sexist. Politeness is just everyday nice behavior. 

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And because this is the opinion of some women chivalry and it's cousin, gallantry is all but extinct.

I'll take that door opened for me, my young boss moving a heavy desk in my office, my BIL seated at the head of the holiday dinner table asking the young guys to please clear the dinner dishes.

[patbz]

My Grands learned about opening doors in pre-school (and insisted on doing it whether you wanted them to or not.