Cash Wedding Gift - How much? - Page 4

Catitude · ‎01-09-2014

$50 -$100 is what I gave as a gift in the 80's. Times have changed. That is being very cheap if you think it's enough.

Burnsite · ‎03-10-2010

For a slightly known person such as you describe, $50.

For a family member or intimate friend, $100.

I usually don't attend weddings I'm invited to, so I can't invoke some kind of rule about the expenses of the bride's parents. Immediate family only. I live far away and it is very hard to get away for a few days.

I don't think I would consider the wedding expenses anyhow, as it is the family's option to choose the type of wedding they prefer. Most of my relatives elope by themselves. Seems right to me, given that it's the beginning of a marriage. To begin with each other alone is a good start, I think.

My mother died very young, though. It didn't come up in her lifetime.

A mom would complicate things. My dad didn't care at all, and always gave a special celebration for the couple after the honeymoon.

missy1 · ‎03-10-2010

Give what you can afford.....You don't have to cover the cost of the meal(s).... Never heard of this rediculousness, until posting on here..

curlywhitedog · ‎03-09-2010

We've been invited to a wedding in June that we're unable to attend, it's my husband's cousin's son. We've probably seen this young man maybe 3 times in his life and never once met his bride to be. Going to the wedding would involve a gift, an overnight stay at a hotel, boarding for our dog at her pet sitters and a 5 hour drive there and back including tolls and gas. All in all we figure it to be about a $500 night and because we don't have a relationship with this young man, we are declining but sending a gift.

Now, having said that, wedding gifts on the east coast tend to be higher than in other places in the US so assuming we went, we'd be looking at $250 at the least. We're sending $150 and if that's not good enough they can just send it back. I'm well past the point in my life where I even care about what others think. This family has come to this well 5 times in the last 12 months with 1 bridal shower, 1 baby shower, two weddings and a birth announcement. Enough is enough, I'm done.

Maria

Lipstickdiva · ‎03-10-2010

You are going to get varying answers.

I have never in my life, until I read this board, heard about anyone trying to cover their meal and drinks at the reception. How would anyone know what the cost is per head? Plus drinks, plus cake. And if someone chooses to have their reception at a high dollar place that is a couple hundred dollars a head, why should anyone feel obligated to pay for that? And what if they can't afford that? Do you stay home?

You should give what you can afford to give and what you are comfortable giving. What is standard differs by area, that's for sure.

I invited people to my wedding because they were important in my life and we wanted them to share our special day with us. I would have been mortified if someone had declined thinking they couldn't afford to come to my wedding. If they gave me $5.00, so be it. One shouldn't expect to make money from their wedding.

CelticCrafter · ‎03-09-2010

I think a monetary gift depends on which part of the country you live in.

I have never received a wedding invitation that included any type registry information.....although one time my husband was invited to a co-workers wedding and they included a card that said if anyone was gifting them they would prefer cash.....

We did not go.

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RainyDayGal · ‎03-09-2010

On 5/21/2014 shannara said:
We are attending the wedding of a very nice young man who did a college internship under my husband's management at his place of work. Hubby and I were discussing how much we should give for a wedding gift. I always think it should be more than he says. Don't really want to ask other guests who are associates of my husband as it is none of our business what anyone else gives. I have no idea what other people give and therefore don't know if we're being generous (which I always prefer to be) or not.

Husband considers him to be a friend and occasionally plays golf with him but they are not in our immediate social circle and are young enough to be our children. What would you consider a generous gift for this relationship? Thanks for your opinions.

Because he worked with your husband, and they seem to be friends I would give more than if it was just a casual acquaintance. What do YOU think you should give? THAT'S what matters!

Lipstickdiva · ‎03-10-2010

On 5/21/2014 Opurrra said:
$50 -$100 is what I gave as a gift in the 80's. Times have changed. That is being very cheap if you think it's enough.

I got married in 1990 and I got $25.00 - $50.00 from many couples. If someone gave $75.00 as a couple that was a LOT.

It really depends on where you live. In my area, $50.00 is pretty normal for one person and $100.00 for 2 people.

Surfnturf · ‎03-09-2010

Unless it's someone I, or we, have a close relationship with, we usually give $100.00. What surprises me nowdays is the number of couples who do not send out thank you cards.