Community Chat

[Burnsite]

Why is the cost of going out to dinner supposed to constitute a floor-minimum for a wedding gift?

I am just glad I grew up in a family that eloped. I have worked with numerous interns and am still friendly with all, but I never gave them wedding presents or attended their receptions. When they asked me, I gave them a hug and a small gift, not $200-300 dollars. I think people must be crazy.

I go to weddings of family and closest friends when I am invited, crossing my fingers and hoping for the best. I will send what I think those folks need.

Not all marriages are permanent or happy. Why pay couples a premium for staging a big party when they marry? They may be divorced in six months. Divorce rate is over 50%.

A bounty for a wedding reception? That to me is pathetic.

ETA: Cheap is kind of an easy word. It is also cheap to solicit money to pay for your wedding.

[Cakers1]

On 5/23/2014 missyw1 said: I vote a potluck wedding, and the couple include they only want cash gifts on the invite. Cheap....

Tacky.

[Danky]

$500 non family.....$1000 family. That is what was given at our daughter's wedding last year and it is what we give.

[missy1]

On 5/25/2014 Alexia jones said: $500 non family.....$1000 family. That is what was given at our daughter's wedding last year and it is what we give.

I would have to give my regrets to all of the invites. Noone here gives that amount. ( except like the parents of the couple, assuming they are not paying for the wedding)

[gidgetgh]

On 5/25/2014 Alexia jones said: $500 non family.....$1000 family. That is what was given at our daughter's wedding last year and it is what we give.

You give a $500 gift to...let's say a co-worker or neighbor's child who is getting married? I wish I'd invited you to my wedding!

[Irshgrl31201]

I usually do around $250. If I am very close to the people perhaps a little more.

[terrier3]

On 5/25/2014 Alexia jones said: $500 non family.....$1000 family. That is what was given at our daughter's wedding last year and it is what we give.

Will you adopt me????

[Melania]

O/T sort of...who do you make the check out to? The bride or groom or both?

[Danky]

On 5/25/2014 gidgetgoeshawaiian said:

On 5/25/2014 Alexia jones said: $500 non family.....$1000 family. That is what was given at our daughter's wedding last year and it is what we give.

You give a $500 gift to...let's say a co-worker or neighbor's child who is getting married? I wish I'd invited you to my wedding!

I should have added that we will not accept any invitation from someone who is just trying to fill seats....an acquaintance who has a child we have never met, for example. We simply don't have the time or interest to attend for the sake of attending. If the invitation we decline is from someone either of us feels it would be prudent to keep in good standing with, we will send something from the registry.

[Irshgrl31201]

On 5/25/2014 Melania2 said:

O/T sort of...who do you make the check out to? The bride or groom or both?

I usually give cash and get new crisp bills for it. I have written checks and whoever I am closer to is the name I put on the check.