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Unless you have told her not to wear perfume, you cannot expect her to be a mind reader. Caregivers are an essential part of an elder’s well being and as you are also a caregiver, it is important that you are able to advocate for your mom.  Passive aggressivity does not cut it when you are responsible for another’s well being. It’s part of being a responsible adult.


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Re: Caregiver and to much perfume

I believe that in most if not all hospitals, doctors' offices, etc. employees are told not to wear ANY fragrance.  I am very sensitive to fragrances.  If you haven't already said something, do so now.

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@VaBelle35 wrote:

Do you know if she smokes?  I notice at work that our smokers spray perfume on themselves as soon as they finish a cigarette.  And it's usually something very strong.

 

My sister does the same thing and then gargles with listerine.

 

It makes  your eyes water.


Omgoodness this brought back a memory!  My co-worker who was a chain smoker (back then at the hospital office you could smoke all day at your desk!) would go out to lunch/drink...and would slugged down several martini's...come back and spray herself in perfume and gargle!  Thinking nobody could "smell" it all on her breath.  Boy did she stink!  she was a alcoholic big time.  

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I hope you will be able to say something.  I agree with the others here that you have every right.

 

I'm asthmatic, so you can imagine how scents take my breath away - literally!    Our former cleaning lady would wear some of the strongest, most rank, stuff I ever smelled.  I had to ask her to please not wear it here.  I was her first job of the day on those days, so she could have just put it on after she left here, if she needed to do that.  Sometimes she would 'forget' and wear it anyway.  I do literally get ill and have a great deal of problems with breathing stuff like that.

 

I mostly just know I have to live with it, but it's no less annoying and problematic.  

 

The grocery store I frequent often has a lot of older women (I'm one too, so I'm not being disrespectful) customers but, unlike me, many of them wear so much perfume that I'm just gagging half the time.  I try to pick a time to go when there will be the fewest (during the day) people, in an effort to avoid this as much as possible.  Half the time, by the time I get home (like 2 minutes from the store) I'm still struggling to breathe and that takes a lot of energy out of a person, so I usually feel all beat up.

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Chickenbutt:

I'm the same.   I keep away from the strong laundry detergent/softeners section/aisles.

My clothes (and my hair) seem to become penetrated with all of the various scents/chemicals.

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@ROMARY wrote:

Chickenbutt:

I'm the same.   I keep away from the strong laundry detergent/softeners section/aisles.

My clothes (and my hair) seem to become penetrated with all of the various scents/chemicals.


 

Oh goodness!  I hate it when I even have to pass the detergent/etc aisle at the grocery store because it sets me off.  When I have to purchase something from that aisle I have to cover my nose and mouth, get the stuff, and get the heck away from that aisle ASAP.   People look at me weird.  I don't care.  Smiley Happy

 

I only use unscented laundry products and Tide will make me sick immediately, even if I'm in somebody's house who uses it and isn't doing laundry in that moment.  It permeates the whole house.

 

It aint easy bein' me!  Smiley Very Happy

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p.s.  That's why I praise and love Trader Joe's. Heart

 

None of their food items and packaging smell of cross-contaminated chemicals/detergents. 

I could stand in front of their small laundry detergent aisle and have no problem whatsoever.

Whatever they're doing (or not doing), it's  wonderful.

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Sorry , but the scented dryer sheets are the worst.

 

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@missy1 wrote:

Sorry , but the scented dryer sheets are the worse.


 

OMG, those are positively horrid!!   I don't even get the point of them - do people want all their clothes, towels, sheets, etc to smell like that?

 

I've also heard that they are bad for dryers, but that could be obsolete - not sure on that bit of it.   At one time, anyway, they were deemed bad for dryers.

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Chickenbutt: 'I have a feeling' that a reason why billions of dollars of allergy pills sales is because of allergy-causing scents/detergents/dryer sheets/etc. on folks' sheets, pillow cases,  clothing.

I'm always feeling very sorry for newborns, children, youngsters.  They have no 'say' in the matter.

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