Community Chat

[Jordan2]

I think it depends if you are the dumper of the dumpee. Also I think if you have moved on and are happy, it's easier to see your ex with someone else. I feel I wouldn't want to be friends with an ex, if I didn't want to possibly spend the rest of my life with them (for whatever reason) why would I want them in my life as a friend? I would hope to be cordial and civil with them if we were to meet again. Sort of off topic, I caught the tail end of Access Hollywood Thursday night. Jerry O'Connell was on. He was talking about his twin girls love for Uncle Jesse from Full House, he thought they were kidding with him, he realized they weren't. He then told them he would blow their minds and told them their mother (Rebecca Romijn) was once married to him. They didn't know and he showed them wedding pictures online! They wanted to know if they were going to get back together again!

[deepwaterdotter]

I am, but we were friends before we were exes.

[RedTop]

I’m not sure I could.   However, when my uncle died in 1973, his wife of 5 months, as well as his 2 ex-wives were seated with the family in our country church.   The 2 exes still loved him, but just couldn’t live with him and his ways.    Am sure #3 would’ve learned that too if she’d had more time with him.   Uncle suffered a massive stroke in his mid 40’s.  

[ROMARY]

I don't think it's a good idea.  Especially if he has a wife or girlfriend.  And I'm only guessing that the ex-wife's new husband/boyfriend wouldn't be too thrilled with the situation.

[DiAnne]

If you had children together I would think it would be crucial to try.

[CAcableGirl2]

As long as both people are happy with the relationship ending, I think you can be friends.  Not call every day friends, or share your secrets friends, but more of cordial and "I wish them the best" kind of friends.

Even if one gets another girlfriend or boyfriend, if the other party is happy with their life, then I think it's possible. 

At least for me, I am very happy that it's over, and he has a girlfriend, and I hope they are both happy.  I for one, couldn't make him happy, and he couldn't make me happy either.  We have children and although we don't gather for family gatherings, or speak often with each other, if he calls, I answer and vice versa. 

I think its possible, as long as neither one in the ending relationship wanted to stay together.

[ROMARY]

Oh, yes!  If there are children involved, it's necessary to be 'friends'.   No room for grudges and rudeness.  Just be civil, be friendly. 

[Scooby Doo]

I couldn't simply because I don't like him.  He's not someone I would choose to be around in my current life.   But it's a moot point because he died many years ago.

I have a couple of friends who are still friends with their ex's.  One friend had 4 kids with him and he basically abandoned them.  She struggled with keeping a roof over their heads and raising them.  He married someone else and raised the stepkids.  But they all buried the hatchet and became a big family.  The live in 3 different states, and once a year they all travel and spend several days together.  Her and 4 kids, him and new wife and 3 stepkids.  Works for them.

[Love4cats]

I have  sister that married, divorced, married again and divorced the same man twice. They get along better as friend's than husband and wife. Our family still consider's her ex as a family member. They are both good people, but they are very different personality's. I think whether you can be friend's with your ex depend's on the circumstance's that lead to the divorce. 

[Irshgrl31201]

Of course you can be. I am still friends with all of my exes except for one and they are still in my life. My husband knows and has no problem because he is a mature adult and knows there is nothing there but friendship. It astounds me when people think there is no way one can be friends with an ex ever. I do understand there are times when it isn't possible but to say or think that it can never happen is just bizarre.