Can It Really Be 1 in 5? - Page 11

mstyrion · ‎08-29-2014

thanks for your story, moonstone.

I've seen that list too. It was very scary how many of the points on the list applied to me too way back then. I think the one I saw had about 20 though!

QueenDanceALot · ‎04-18-2013

To those who don't understand why a woman would stay and insist that they would leave if there were even an inkling that their man would be violent towards them I ask you to consider a woman who is with a man who has shown her love for a time and has earned her trust and then he starts to belittle, then he starts to grab, then maybe he throws you up against a wall, perhaps next time he grabs your throat and tells you he could kill you if he wanted to. Maybe you go to the "authorities" and maybe even you get a restraining order, but the man is still out there, and he's threatened your life. You never feel safe, no matter where you go.

Imagine a man who weighs twice as much as you hulking over you, telling you he'll kill you if you ever dare try to get away from him again. And no one is stopping him, not you certainly, and unfortunately, not the "authorities".

Do you still think it's so easy to just walk away?

QueenDanceALot · ‎04-18-2013

On 9/17/2014 occasional rain said:
On 9/17/2014 cody said:
On 9/17/2014 occasional rain said:
Last night NCIS happened to be on, it's not a show I watch so I don't know the names of the characters, and a woman punched her coworker in the stomach as she passed by. The thing is that had the male actor done the exact same thing to the woman, there would be letters of outrage.

In movies and on TV we see women throwing things at men, slapping and kicking them, and I wonder why that's seen as somehow acceptable. Why aren't they arrested and charged? Even in the Rice incident, there has been nothing condemning the woman's behavior. So why the double standard?

HUH???? Did she knock him out and drag him around unconscious like a piece of trash? What is wrong with you?

I could ask you the same. Somehow you only recognize abuse when it's happening to women but are blind to the abuse some woman commit. When a TV show condones a woman punching a man, whether or not he loses consciousness, there is something wrong with our society.

You continually hype what really happened. He dragged her out of the elevator the same way a fireman has been seen dragging an unconscious person out of harm's way. He didn't kick her as some have described it, he moved her feet so the elevator door wouldn't close on them with his foot. Should maybe have used his hands.

You can't be serious.

Really, you can't.

terrier3 · ‎03-10-2010

On 9/17/2014 occasional rain said:

I could ask you the same. Somehow you only recognize abuse when it's happening to women but are blind to the abuse some woman commit. When a TV show condones a woman punching a man, whether or not he loses consciousness, there is something wrong with our society.

You continually hype what really happened. He dragged her out of the elevator the same way a fireman has been seen dragging an unconscious person out of harm's way. He didn't kick her as some have described it, he moved her feet so the elevator door wouldn't close on them with his foot. Should maybe have used his hands.

OR - Why are you defending the indefensible?

He wouldn't have had to drag her anywhere if he hadn't punched her in the face with his fist - knocking her out cold.

Unlike a first responder, he didn't get her help either.

brii · ‎06-20-2010

On 9/18/2014 KittyLouWhoToo said:
On 9/17/2014 occasional rain said:
On 9/17/2014 cody said:
On 9/17/2014 occasional rain said:
Last night NCIS happened to be on, it's not a show I watch so I don't know the names of the characters, and a woman punched her coworker in the stomach as she passed by. The thing is that had the male actor done the exact same thing to the woman, there would be letters of outrage.

In movies and on TV we see women throwing things at men, slapping and kicking them, and I wonder why that's seen as somehow acceptable. Why aren't they arrested and charged? Even in the Rice incident, there has been nothing condemning the woman's behavior. So why the double standard?

HUH???? Did she knock him out and drag him around unconscious like a piece of trash? What is wrong with you?

I could ask you the same. Somehow you only recognize abuse when it's happening to women but are blind to the abuse some woman commit. When a TV show condones a woman punching a man, whether or not he loses consciousness, there is something wrong with our society.

You continually hype what really happened. He dragged her out of the elevator the same way a fireman has been seen dragging an unconscious person out of harm's way. He didn't kick her as some have described it, he moved her feet so the elevator door wouldn't close on them with his foot. Should maybe have used his hands.

You can't be serious.

Really, you can't.

I think she just likes to play the role of contrarian. Nobody could defend how he dragged her out of an elevator by comparing it to a fireman dragging someone to safety.

Lila Belle · ‎01-24-2013

smh

QueenDanceALot · ‎04-18-2013

Recommended reading for anyone who is personally familiar or not with domestic violence.

"The Woman Who Walked Into Doors" by Paddy Doyle.

I read it several years ago, about a working class Irish woman and her experience. It is a novel but certainly based in reality, set in Ireland. The culture, though, as described, mimics ours today in so many ways.

A very powerful read. Doyle is an excellent writer.