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[Miss Brenda Starr]

Why not?

[Love my grandkids]

On 9/18/2014 physicsnut said:

I do not believe this study.

Well then, what do you believe? What are your statistics?

[chrystaltree]

It depends on how they define abuse. If they included verbal abuse and financial abuse, it might be that high.

[YorkieonmyPillow]

I don't believe 1 in 5 males abuse their wives, not at all.

[mstyrion 1]

On 10/18/2014 YorkieonmyPillow said:

I don't believe 1 in 5 males abuse their wives, not at all.

why?

[YorkieonmyPillow]

On 10/18/2014 mstyrion 1 said:

On 10/18/2014 YorkieonmyPillow said:

I don't believe 1 in 5 males abuse their wives, not at all.

why?

Why would I?

[~moxie~]

My husband never hit me. He used words that did. I did not realize how those words affected me until I read an article about other women being abused verbally. It opened my eyes to really how much it affected me mentally. He always apologized. But it did affect my self esteem. I still to this day cannot take a compliment gracefully.

[151949]

I think that one thing that can be done is to teach young people the first signs - the isolating their victim from friends and family - the trying to make them feel they are not important - trying to eat away at the victim's self esteem. This all happens way before the actual physical abuse starts. They set it up so their victim feels they have no escape. If young ladies knew about this ahead of time maybe they would get away before it is too late because I think the abusers start this as soon as they start dating. I have dated a couple guys who started this krap - fortunately, I had learned in nursing school about the early signs a person may be an abuser and I got away from them quickly. If you are dating someone and they constantly are telling you your dumb or something like that - sweetly like " You don't know anything but I'll take care of you " type things - that is a sign - he is trying to lower your self esteem. Also if he is always handing you a lot of krap about your friends & family to try to break up your relationships with them - another big sign - he wants to isolate you.

[chickenbutt]

On 9/17/2014 kdgn said:

Sadly I'm inclined to believe the numbers. Gay or straight, some men have never learned to get a grip on their tempers. Or they know alcohol brings out violent tendencies yet they drink anyway.

I'm sure there have been several of us, but I have been knocked around in the past. One was a partner and the other one was just somebody I went out with a couple of times.

The common denominator was alcohol. Now, I'm not at all one of those preachy people about alcohol (or anything else for that matter), but there ARE some people who should not drink. I would also imagine that all of us already knew that, so you didn't need me to tell you. But it brings out the worst in some people, especially men who can easily overtake a woman.

The date I never saw again after that. With the other guy I began arranging to get the heck out of dodge immediately. Fortunately, I didn't have kids, I made a good living, and I was able to set myself up. Some women are not that fortunate.

[mstyrion 1]

On 10/18/2014 YorkieonmyPillow said:

On 10/18/2014 mstyrion 1 said:

On 10/18/2014 YorkieonmyPillow said:

I don't believe 1 in 5 males abuse their wives, not at all.

why?

Why would I?

OK. I see it's just a feeling with you and no real facts. That's OK if you don't want to believe it but I think you are naive and probably not well informed about how prevalent abuse is in our society.