Re: Can It Really Be 1 in 5?

Lila Belle · ‎01-24-2013

On 9/18/2014 KittyLouWhoToo said:
On 9/18/2014 Lila Belle said:
${#emotions_dlg.lol}$ that's much better than what it really stands for, i.e. "shaking my head."

Oh, thanks!

(Could be both then!!) ${#emotions_dlg.laugh}$

Yep !

biancardi · ‎03-10-2010

On 9/17/2014 occasional rain said:
On 9/17/2014 cody said:
On 9/17/2014 occasional rain said:
Last night NCIS happened to be on, it's not a show I watch so I don't know the names of the characters, and a woman punched her coworker in the stomach as she passed by. The thing is that had the male actor done the exact same thing to the woman, there would be letters of outrage.

In movies and on TV we see women throwing things at men, slapping and kicking them, and I wonder why that's seen as somehow acceptable. Why aren't they arrested and charged? Even in the Rice incident, there has been nothing condemning the woman's behavior. So why the double standard?

HUH???? Did she knock him out and drag him around unconscious like a piece of trash? What is wrong with you?

I could ask you the same. Somehow you only recognize abuse when it's happening to women but are blind to the abuse some woman commit. When a TV show condones a woman punching a man, whether or not he loses consciousness, there is something wrong with our society.

You continually hype what really happened. He dragged her out of the elevator the same way a fireman has been seen dragging an unconscious person out of harm's way. He didn't kick her as some have described it, he moved her feet so the elevator door wouldn't close on them with his foot. Should maybe have used his hands.

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mstyrion · ‎08-29-2014

On 9/18/2014 brii said:
On 9/18/2014 KittyLouWhoToo said:
On 9/17/2014 occasional rain said:
On 9/17/2014 cody said:
On 9/17/2014 occasional rain said:
Last night NCIS happened to be on, it's not a show I watch so I don't know the names of the characters, and a woman punched her coworker in the stomach as she passed by. The thing is that had the male actor done the exact same thing to the woman, there would be letters of outrage.

In movies and on TV we see women throwing things at men, slapping and kicking them, and I wonder why that's seen as somehow acceptable. Why aren't they arrested and charged? Even in the Rice incident, there has been nothing condemning the woman's behavior. So why the double standard?

HUH???? Did she knock him out and drag him around unconscious like a piece of trash? What is wrong with you?

I could ask you the same. Somehow you only recognize abuse when it's happening to women but are blind to the abuse some woman commit. When a TV show condones a woman punching a man, whether or not he loses consciousness, there is something wrong with our society.

You continually hype what really happened. He dragged her out of the elevator the same way a fireman has been seen dragging an unconscious person out of harm's way. He didn't kick her as some have described it, he moved her feet so the elevator door wouldn't close on them with his foot. Should maybe have used his hands.

You can't be serious.

Really, you can't.

I think she just likes to play the role of contrarian. Nobody could defend how he dragged her out of an elevator by comparing it to a fireman dragging someone to safety.

I agree with you, Bri.

OR often plays the contrarian on hotly debated threads.

Anyone who saw the video knows RR wasn't gently removing the victim from harm's way. He didn't just "move her feet ...with his foot". He kicked them out of the way. You can squint and put on rose colored glasses, but you can't change the fact he was completely cold when he dragged her out of the elevator.

Lipstickdiva · ‎03-10-2010

On 9/17/2014 terrier3 said:
On 9/17/2014 ROMARY said:
I agree.......sometimes not having gainful employment is a huge problem. Frustrations run very high, etc. Not condoning/excusing violence by any means...........just could be one of the reasons for the higher numbers/statistics.

Violence against women peaks on Super Bowl Sunday...due to sore losers who gamble the rent money on the game!

I'm not kidding!!!!

Never heard this but I did hear that holidays are especially bad for domestic violence. I have several friends and relatives who are nurses, some work in ER and have said they get a lot of DV victims in ER on holidays, especially x-mas.

Lipstickdiva · ‎03-10-2010

On 9/17/2014 cody said:
On 9/17/2014 occasional rain said:
Last night NCIS happened to be on, it's not a show I watch so I don't know the names of the characters, and a woman punched her coworker in the stomach as she passed by. The thing is that had the male actor done the exact same thing to the woman, there would be letters of outrage.

In movies and on TV we see women throwing things at men, slapping and kicking them, and I wonder why that's seen as somehow acceptable. Why aren't they arrested and charged? Even in the Rice incident, there has been nothing condemning the woman's behavior. So why the double standard?

HUH???? Did she knock him out and drag him around unconscious like a piece of trash? What is wrong with you?

There is definitely a double standard. This thread is about abuse, no matter what kind. It isn't only about someone being knocked unconscious and dragged around.

Pushing, shoving, verbal abuse, slapping.......all abuse.

OR brought up what I have brought up a number of times. I have seen TV shows that are supposed to be comedies and the women are verbally and sometimes physically abusive to their spouse, all in the name of comedy. It's not funny and if it were the other way around and the men on the show were doing what the women were doing, it wouldn't be considered funny at all.

Lipstickdiva · ‎03-10-2010

On 9/17/2014 NoelSeven said:
On 9/17/2014 occasional rain said:
Last night NCIS happened to be on, it's not a show I watch so I don't know the names of the characters, and a woman punched her coworker in the stomach as she passed by. The thing is that had the male actor done the exact same thing to the woman, there would be letters of outrage.

In movies and on TV we see women throwing things at men, slapping and kicking them, and I wonder why that's seen as somehow acceptable. Why aren't they arrested and charged? Even in the Rice incident, there has been nothing condemning the woman's behavior. So why the double standard?

Why aren't they arrested? Good God. Because they're TV shows. And most are written by men.

I don't understand the arrest thing but regardless of whether the shows are written by men or not, women watch them. Are they outraged by the behavior? Do they write letters or call in about it?

I don't know but some of what goes on is appalling.

fluffie · ‎02-15-2011

Some of the most abusive people I have seen are women. It is not only men who abuse.

Lipstickdiva · ‎03-10-2010

On 9/17/2014 occasional rain said:

I could ask you the same. Somehow you only recognize abuse when it's happening to women but are blind to the abuse some woman commit. When a TV show condones a woman punching a man, whether or not he loses consciousness, there is something wrong with our society.

You continually hype what really happened. He dragged her out of the elevator the same way a fireman has been seen dragging an unconscious person out of harm's way. He didn't kick her as some have described it, he moved her feet so the elevator door wouldn't close on them with his foot. Should maybe have used his hands.

Okay now you've really lost me.

Should maybe have used his hands? Ya think? How about she should never have been lying on the floor, out cold to begin with?

You cannot possibly be serious comparing him to a fireman. This is outrageous.

Lipstickdiva · ‎03-10-2010

On 9/18/2014 fluffie said:
Some of the most abusive people I have seen are women. It is not only men who abuse.

Yes there are women who are abusive. I would bet though that men are more physically abusive than women. I mean I would bet more women are physically abused by men than men are physically abused by women.

I posted before, I know a couple who are physically abusive to each other. It is nothing for the cops to be called to their house and both are arrested. They go at each other on a regular basis.

straykatz · ‎03-09-2010

1 in 5 has a deeper impact than to say 20 out 0f 100 yet they both mean the same.

I don't find the number unbelievable.....it's only unbelievable to those who have neever seen or experienced domestic abuse......I grew up in a family where the majority of males were abusive to their women so in my world as a child it was 100% not 1 in 5.