CHRISTMAS PARTY ATTIRE - POLL - Page 7

VanSleepy · ‎10-05-2010

If I got an invitation that said holiday or festive attire, I would think you want me to wear a top with a Christmas tree on it or something. Otherwise why would you be telling me how to dress to come to your house.

SaRina · ‎04-17-2015

@Moonchilde wrote:
@SaRina wrote:
@Lipstickdiva, if "no shoes" wasn't specified to me beforehand, I'd leave. I think that would be very rude.

@SaRina, have you ever seen or participated in one of the many, many "do you tell people to take their shoes off before they enter your home, and, rude or not?" threads?

They get as wild, crazy and deadly insulting as amy threads ever have on these forums.

I'm also on the "very rude" side, but there are others who never want anyone to darken their door who can't comply for any reason and would be happy to refuse admittance. The threads are pretty...entertaining in their polarity.

@No, I haven't @Moonchilde. Uh oh. Perhaps I should retract my post, lol. Oh, and I completely understand about the PF. It's very uncomfortable for me to be in flats, let alone barefoot, as I tore my Achilles tendon and it never healed properly.

@Noel7, that's a different scenario. One would (assumedly) know the cultural traditions of the Thai household before going there, in which case people can go or decline the invitation. But if I were to show up at a formal party at someone's house without knowing their Shoe Rules and be asked to de-shoe. .... I'm pretty sure I'd turn around with shoes on feet. :-)

Moonchilde · ‎05-23-2010

@SaRina, I hear ya. I started with very disabling Achilles tendinosis (mostly an inoperable condition) in my left foot. The dysfunctional gait it caused gave me the PF on my right foot. It's always something...!

I can say I'm "okay" now for the most part, but am always aware I'm a hair's breadth from another long-lasting, PITA disabling session coming out of nowhere. Without support=very bad news for me.

Life without Mexican food is no life at all

Sooner · ‎03-10-2010

@Iwantcoffee wrote:
@freakygirl wrote:
how about, come dressed up or dressed down, just come and have a great time! no need to impose or "suggest" a desired attire.
I would not state a dress code for a party in my home.

I would not if it were just a few very very close friends. BUT, if I have a party of more than say eight people at a sit down meal, I would indicate in the invitation that we'll be having dinner--which says to most people "kick it up a notch." "Festive" also indicates that it is a little fancier than casual.

Me personally, I HATE HATE HATE when people don't give you some clue about how to dress or at least the tone of the party.

Sooner · ‎03-10-2010

@Burnsite wrote:
Hi, @Spinach2, It depends on your friends. None of mine would turn up for a formal party.

I would suggest, if you wish to do a dressy event, that the dinner be fancy, too. No buffet. No Buffalo wings. You know this already, though.

People won't stay as long at a dressy party--or that's been my experience. Unless you make arrangements for dancing. If the dancing space is there, the party could extend.

Really, it all depends on what is customary in your group of friends. If they are casual, they might not stay long. If they like to dress up, they will linger for hours.

You know what is really odd? My experience is they stay LONGER if we have a big meal with at least three courses at the table. I don't understand it but for some reason I think they start to interact with each other, have a great time, linger over dessert and want to continue the conversation and beverages to wind down is all I can figure. Maybe it is sort of a rare thing to do now and they want to savor the evening and the festive atmosphere. They are between 30 and 70 in age sometimes, so I think that is something they enjoy also. I don't know. I would think like you they would eat and bug out!

I have threatened many times to get some of those armless chairs for the living room so they'll GO HOME! My husband thinks that is funny.

Sooner · ‎03-10-2010

@Caaareful Shopper wrote:
I see more Christmas Party invitations that say "Festive Attire." That doesn't help much, but at least the invited guests know the venue (your home) and can then pretty much pull together a very nice outfit, without it being formal. Comfortable, but holiday special (another non-helpful term, I know -- LOL). I think that attire makes everyone feel comfortable, while it's still something more than your typical "house party."

You can take a pair of black pants, put on a pretty top and even a nice comfortable jacket, good jewelry and maybe some fancy shoes and a beautiful scarf and look lovely these days. Dressy no longer means uncomfortable. Heck you can even break out a skirt and you don't have to be uncomfortable with all the options we have now.

Noel7 · ‎03-09-2010

@SaRina wrote:
@Moonchilde wrote:
@SaRina wrote:
@Lipstickdiva, if "no shoes" wasn't specified to me beforehand, I'd leave. I think that would be very rude.

@SaRina, have you ever seen or participated in one of the many, many "do you tell people to take their shoes off before they enter your home, and, rude or not?" threads?

They get as wild, crazy and deadly insulting as amy threads ever have on these forums.

I'm also on the "very rude" side, but there are others who never want anyone to darken their door who can't comply for any reason and would be happy to refuse admittance. The threads are pretty...entertaining in their polarity.
@No, I haven't @Moonchilde. Uh oh. Perhaps I should retract my post, lol. Oh, and I completely understand about the PF. It's very uncomfortable for me to be in flats, let alone barefoot, as I tore my Achilles tendon and it never healed properly.

@Noel7, that's a different scenario. One would (assumedly) know the cultural traditions of the Thai household before going there, in which case people can go or decline the invitation. But if I were to show up at a formal party at someone's house without knowing their Shoe Rules and be asked to de-shoe. .... I'm pretty sure I'd turn around with shoes on feet. :-)

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I can totally understand that @SaRina if there's a medical issue.

Tinkrbl44 · ‎08-23-2010

@Sooner wrote:
@Caaareful Shopper wrote:
I see more Christmas Party invitations that say "Festive Attire." That doesn't help much, but at least the invited guests know the venue (your home) and can then pretty much pull together a very nice outfit, without it being formal. Comfortable, but holiday special (another non-helpful term, I know -- LOL). I think that attire makes everyone feel comfortable, while it's still something more than your typical "house party."
You can take a pair of black pants, put on a pretty top and even a nice comfortable jacket, good jewelry and maybe some fancy shoes and a beautiful scarf and look lovely these days. Dressy no longer means uncomfortable. Heck you can even break out a skirt and you don't have to be uncomfortable with all the options we have now.

@Sooner

ITA .... I don't understand how it is all that difficult ..... or just wear some version of the LBD .... even a black turtleneck and skirt and wear some bold jewelry. No biggie.

Noel7 · ‎03-09-2010

@Sooner wrote:
@Iwantcoffee wrote:
@freakygirl wrote:
how about, come dressed up or dressed down, just come and have a great time! no need to impose or "suggest" a desired attire.
I would not state a dress code for a party in my home.

I would not if it were just a few very very close friends. BUT, if I have a party of more than say eight people at a sit down meal, I would indicate in the invitation that we'll be having dinner--which says to most people "kick it up a notch." "Festive" also indicates that it is a little fancier than casual.

Me personally, I HATE HATE HATE when people don't give you some clue about how to dress or at least the tone of the party.

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I had a wealthy friend at church who used to say you can never be too well dressed. She didn't mean dressed in a gaudy manner or wearing too much jewelry, she just meant dressed well. She didn't care if she showed up at a BBQ dressed that way.

I suppose it's better than being underdressed.