CHRISTMAS PARTY ATTIRE - POLL - Page 13

Moonchilde · ‎05-23-2010

@Spinach2 wrote:
Hi all! I'm the OP! Thanks for all the suggestions. Please, no one should be offended. I have decided on a "festive casual" attire for our party. Everyone invited is a close friend or family (we've invited about 65 people)! Should be fun! Have a blessed holiday everyone!

Hope it's a success for you and all enjoy, @Spinach2.

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Lipstickdiva · ‎03-10-2010

@Tinkrbl44 wrote:
@Lipstickdiva wrote:
@Tinkrbl44 wrote:
@JaneMarple wrote:
When did we as a society become offended at being asked to dress up at a host's party? I'm not that old that I remember the days when women wore a nice dress for a PTA meeting or to go out to lunch with friends. I've been to some really large beautiful and average size homes where everyone dressed up and did not feel uncomfortable. What is wrong with dressing up?
@JaneMarple

Amen, sister! I often wonder if it's because people are self conscious because they never learned HOW to dress properly for a variety of events .... or just have little or no experience wearing dressy attire.

Years ago, I seem to recall that most women had a variety of outfits for different occasions ..... I just can't imagine that people only have one type of outfit ... jeans .... and would actually stay home if an event was a bit dressier! What is wrong with people?

Did someone say they were offended if they had to dress up? I don't recall seeing that. I saw a lot of posters saying they don't want to dress up for a house party but that's a lot different than being offended.

Many of us know perfectly well how to dress for various occassions. (How insulting to think otherwise.) However, some of us dress up daily for work and just don't want to do it outside of work. Some don't have the need for serious cocktail attire and would be buying a dress for one party only and consider it a waste of money or they don't have the money to do that.
@Lipstickdiva

Perhaps you are confusing my comments with someone else's? I just went back and re-read my comments you responded to, and didn't see anywhere that I mentioned "offended".

It must be someone else's comments.

The poster you responded to is the one that mentioned people being offended and you agreed so I was sort of responding to both of you.

Sorry if I misinterpreted what you said.

Sooner · ‎03-10-2010

@Moonchilde wrote:
@Sooner wrote:
@Moonchilde wrote:
@RazorSharp wrote:
@Moonchilde wrote:
LOL!

As could easily have been predicted, the thread has become "I know how to dress, you obviously don't" and "What a slob you are. Glad I'm not like YOU!"

Carry on. I'm sure the OP got whatever might be of value in the thread awhile back.
@Moonchilde LOL! I took it more as the "I'm a human being who is capable of making common sense choices and navigating through an adult world" versus the "If I can't wear my orange sweatpants to your housewarming/cocktail party, I'm not going" type thread.

@RazorSharp, I think it depends on whose posts stand out to (the general) you. Hard to miss the "in your face", clearly passing judgment posts.
when people are dressed inappropriately and it is recognized by other humans, that's not judgment. It's that the people aren't dressed for the event. It isn't damning them to hellfire or calling the police, it is simply stating the obvious. Nothing "in your face" about discussing what to wear to a party. Just opinions. Why do people get so upset over others having differing opinions about what is appropriate and what isn't?

You can't discuss anything without putting someone's nose out of joint these days.

It's not All About You, your posts aren't the only ones here (or the only ones that matter). Some people are able to see the whole picture, some aren't.

'Nose out of joint'? I simply made a comment. But yes, I *now* see there does appear to be one - and it isn't mine :-)

Well to enlighten you further regarding what I clearly said, I was commenting about all the posts and adding thoughts especially to the string of posts above. I was bemoaning the fact that we cannot share opinions here any more because certain posters get offended by thinking everything is about them. It is an ongoing problem. Case in point. . .

SOME people are talking about how they feel about party attire and how one knows what to wear. Some apparently are offended that some of us care about how we are dressed and appreciate the hosts clueing us in. Some are so offended by that action they won't even go to the party.

It shows you how different we all are. It shows what other people think. I enjoy reading about that but nowdays someone is always offended at differing opinions and it turns into a smack down. I don't get it but I guess everyone's gotta have a hobby.

Lipstickdiva · ‎03-10-2010

@RazorSharp wrote:

@Lipstickdiva Not attending an event because you don't have the proper attire on hand or can't afford the proper attire is fine, but not attending an event because you don't feel like putting on the proper clothes means you've failed as an adult human being.

Not really. People are free to do what they want. I don't attend Halloween costume parties because I don't want to put on a Halloween costume. The whole thing doesn't appeal to me. So I stay home and I'm quite happy.

Maybe the thought of putting on a gown or cocktail attire to attend a party doesn't appeal to someone in the same way so they choose to stay home. Nothing wrong with that. It's their choice.

SaRina · ‎04-17-2015

ITA @LipstickDiva. I haven't worn a dress, skirt, pantyhose or spiked heels in about 20 years... and I don't plan to just to be "dressed appropriately" according to someone else's definition. I can dress up just fine with what I have.

And I still ain't taking off my shoes! :-)

beckyb1012 · ‎03-09-2010

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DiAnne · ‎09-22-2010

I think a lot of the differences have to do with people's lifestyles and what part of the country they live in. I grew up in California and I now live in the Pacific Northwest which is more casual but we still dress up to go out to dinner or to the theater, etc. In the summer we may have casual barbecues at the Lake or on boats but during the Holidays with have "festive" parties. I can't figure out why people keep mentioning cocktail dresses - did that disappear 40+ years ago?

Noel7 · ‎03-09-2010

I wouldn't wear a fancy dress and panty hose again if someone paid me. And I don't have to, I live in a diverse city where most people dress well and wear what they want.

The days of the Chronicle featuring fancy gowns for the opening of the Opera are long gone. You can also see a lot from the gay community participating in parties and civic events, and thanks to some of the women there, no one is going to tsk tsk them for not wearing a dress or skirt, or for choosing to wear one if that's what they want.

Mark Zuckerberg will be throwing a lot of parties once that mansion of his is finished and I'm willing to bet he will still be in a tee shirt.

lbwshop · ‎08-23-2010

I recently found a photo of my family's New Year's Day open house from the late 50's. The ladies and girls are all wearing "party" dresses, the guys have on ties. Any party was an excuse for dressing up. It was parat of the fun.