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[NAES1]

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@NAES1 wrote:

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@NAES1 wrote:

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@webbgarner1 wrote:

 I agree with what  the actress Pamela Anderson had to say and I had long thought. In al ot of these situations, these women who are now calling theirself victims should have known better. Why would you go to a mans hotel room alone and him being there alone as well. You are sending the message, yeah I will play along, then cry harassment years later.

Now if someone is denying you a promotion in the workplace unless you do sexual favors that is different matter. But a lot of these women, not all, put thierself in these positions and did not set bounderies. 

Most men will stop the behavior if you stand your ground and tell them it is not appreciated and do not do it again, but when you play along and then complain that is wrong.

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      @webbgarner1,

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@cbrite>>>>>>>>>> as mentioned from your post (another thread)

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                         I also read,  then [reread ] every single word that

 Pamela Anderson said in her true to point view of these many situations, and agreed everything she wisely stated: Women know better than to go in to hotel room alone...they know they are positioning any type of behavior.

  With few - - very few exceptions- - most young girls (adults) and women old enough to know better are clearly mesmerized by Power and money.

  This is nothing new and has been going on for

   __way before I was  I was ever born_!

  I was not allowed to car date at 16-17, not because my parents did not trust me, but very knowledgeable of what 'The date' could have power over me. Just the one to one car dates, nothing to do with couples going together to dances and other high school activities. 

 This (almost) reminds me of high school again...the girl dated the football player(s) to be popular and noted to be ahead of the other girls, either due to low self esteem, or never being noticed before.

The GUYS never wanted the company...after the once- they were > O U T.

  When I was in my 20s -had graduated from my series of nursing schools, I had the top Chief of Staff as one of my private room patients.

He asked for me each day, until I became very uncomfortable being that near by- to his needs.

 He said if I leave he would have a petition signed to not let me leave that one hospital, but I did on my own and never looked backed. 

Working in any hospital, I always was faced with these troublesome... so thought powerful physicians.

I could `smell` intuitively when one thought I could be bought and be given any position wanted- I left to another floor where, then-  I became a teaching clinical medical adviser. 

I was engaged soon after that to be married...!!And!! Good RIDDANCE because I would have destroyed their lives, and would be a poster nurse...This too, can happened to you if you Don't Scream Out - Rid the little gods.

I was one of the very fortunate ones because I would never fall victim to slime scums after their young prey.

Thank God I had  very caring and wise parents.

 My heart ache is for those (both female and males) who had no role models.

  Young girls have no business being with young boys with high testosterone levels - alone in a car, far away from help;also, that goes for the girls that mature too early.  Both know (even in high school) know what is happening, just too caught up in the "hey no consequences for me syndrome" .

These men, the so called high profiled powered creeps just keep on going UNTIL CAUGHT.        Just that SIMPLE!

 In these situations, most have lost their power through testosterone, trading off with power and money.................!

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                     @cbrite   - you may not have rec'd this..as promised.  NAES

[Lindsays Grandma]

I haven't read all the posts and this may a bit off topic but I would like to mention what our Human Resource Department at Warner Bros. advised us about sexual harassment.  

This was back in the 90's and all managers were told to be at a particular studio for a meeting.  When we as managers were given that notice you can be sure we attended.  I don't recall who exactly the people were who gave their speech but one thing stuck in my mind, which was...If you like a particular item of clothing someone is wearing never say, "That sweater looks great on you".  Or, "You look good in that sweater".  A simple, "I like your sweater", will suffice.  From that day forward I kept in mind all the things we were told and was very careful how I worded what I said, no one was going to accuse me of saying something that could be construed as a sexual unwanted comment.  It is really sad how something very simple can be twisted and taken as an insult that becomes a law suit.  

The accusations that have been made by so many well known individuals are indeed disgusting, insulting and degrading.  Saying a simple "You look great in that sweater" is by no means any where close to what many women have experienced, but it could be cause for someone to make a mountain out of a molehill and you never know who that person is until they slam you with an accusation.