Big Decisions - Signs? - Page 2

dulwich · ‎01-18-2012

@Annabellethecat66 Thank you so much for your input. I have been rather slow learning something you know already that friends are friends (sometimes) but family is it.

I think when you live apart from family you tend to think friends are maybe more important because they are living in your area - until you realize - as in our case - not so. We are definitely on our right path now. Again my thanks for your input.

Annabellethecat66 · ‎03-12-2010

@dulwich I understand what you are saying. My family is now scattered a bit but we're still close.

I've had to help several of them (sisters, etc) out financially recently. My sister said, "I'm sorry I have to come to you." I said, "You are my sister (she's my 1/2 sister). I would do anything for you. It's just money".

My daughters and I argue (get very angry) and then within hours, it's over. Always been that way.

Think of it that way. I could never say some of the things to my friends that I do to my daughters. In the end they know I'd move heaven and eath for them. That's family.

You know all of that. That's why you decided to do what you are doing. You're pretty smart lady. Fondly, Annabelle/Linda

Moonchilde · ‎05-23-2010

@dulwich, you have always spoken of your family with great warmth and affection; it sounds to me like they miss you, and you miss them, and you enjoy hanging out with them.

I know all about the ‘people you thought were friends’ thing and you are right - go with your gut feeling as to who unconditionally has your back.

As to where you’re moving - well, at least you and I know it’s a beautiful spot, contrary to those who’ve never been there. And you already have one friend in the area, you know ;-)

Life without Mexican food is no life at all

cherry · ‎03-09-2010

It would be wonderful to have @Moonchilde as a real life friend. She loves all things British, you would be tailor made for each other

Now that's a lucky sign, if ever there was one

Moonchilde · ‎05-23-2010

@cherry wrote:
It would be wonderful to have @Moonchilde as a real life friend. She loves all things British, you would be tailor made for each other

Now that's a lucky sign, if ever there was one

@cherry, we “know” each other from the forums, and have discussedin the past getting together if/when she moves. It would be delightful :-)

Life without Mexican food is no life at all

dulwich · ‎01-18-2012

@Moonchilde Get ready for that cream tea dear friend!

dulwich · ‎01-18-2012

@Annabellethecat66 My daughters and I argue too - full on - but then it is all over and I love you's said and we are soon laughing again - never lasts.

What we have is the same sense of humor (we are all Brits) and just a look or shrug and we all 'get it' and the laughter starts we just get each other which after all is family. Thank you for your kind words much appreciated.

mac116 · ‎03-26-2010

When my MIL was getting older, she made the choice to stay in Ohio with her friends over moving back to where her whole family lived. Fast forward...friends died, developed their own health issues, or moved to be with family. She ended up very sad and lonely, and not well enough anymore to move back. Oh how she regretted her choice! For most of us, family is more important.

Noel7 · ‎03-09-2010

@dulwich wrote:
@Annabellethecat66 My daughters and I argue too - full on - but then it is all over and I love you's said and we are soon laughing again - never lasts.

What we have is the same sense of humor (we are all Brits) and just a look or shrug and we all 'get it' and the laughter starts we just get each other which after all is family. Thank you for your kind words much appreciated.

@dulwich

I recently had my ancestry done. 100% European, 73% British.

I have no male relative so they could not be specific that 50% was Welsh

tansy · ‎01-02-2011

@mac116 wrote:
When my MIL was getting older, she made the choice to stay in Ohio with her friends over moving back to where her whole family lived. Fast forward...friends died, developed their own health issues, or moved to be with family. She ended up very sad and lonely, and not well enough anymore to move back. Oh how she regretted her choice! For most of us, family is more important.

It’s a gamble either way. I know couples who moved to be back with family, only to be disappointed that the grandchildren were more interested in their friends than in them once the kids reached the pre-teen years or the adult child moved away for a job promotion:/