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[SAM55]

I havne't been invited to a baptism in years and years.  Would those reading this share their thoughts on what my husband and I should give a dear girl and her husband on their first baby's baptismal?  I've known this girl forever, she grew up with my niece and I think of her as a niece.  Also, my son who is single got invited (lives separately).  How much should he give?  Thanks in advance!  I'd like to give a check because I don't know if they're religious, attend church, etc.....

[Love my grandkids]

@SAM55 I'm 76 and Catholic and don't ever recall monetary gifts being given at a Baptism but maybe things have changed. When I was young a card was given but gifts were not customary.

Maybe you'll get some ideas here. You could always call the office of your local Catholic church and ask, i'm sure they would be most helpful.

[SAM55]

I'm Catholic and my sister, friends, cousins are telling me to give a check, I just don't know what's appropriate.

[CelticCrafter]

If it were me, I would give a check.  The amount would have to be up to you and your son.

I wouldn't give any type of religious article or picture frame.  I see so many of those type of things on the Freecycle groups I belong to.

[ninjawife]

I am catholic and it was always custom to give a monetary gift.  We used our DDs gifts to open up savings accounts for them. 

[SAM55]

As a married couple -- $100?  $150?  More?  Less?  I'm in a quandary!

[CelticCrafter]

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@SAM55 wrote:

As a married couple -- $100?  $150?  More?  Less?  I'm in a quandary!

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@SAM55 what would you give your niece?  Base it off that.

[tipsy]

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@SAM55 wrote:

I havne't been invited to a baptism in years and years.  Would those reading this share their thoughts on what my husband and I should give a dear girl and her husband on their first baby's baptismal?  I've known this girl forever, she grew up with my niece and I think of her as a niece.  Also, my son who is single got invited (lives separately).  How much should he give?  Thanks in advance!  I'd like to give a check because I don't know if they're religious, attend church, etc.....

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@SAM55 since they are baptizing their baby they must be somewhat religious & most likely attend church.  If they're Catholic they would need to be parishioners of the church where the baby is being baptized.

I think $100 from you & your husband & $50 from your son would be fine.

[Marsha2003]

I would say $50 to $100 would be reasonable.

[ECBG]

I would give a new $50 or new $100 bill in a beautiful card for her collage fund.