Baked goods received as a Christmas gift - Page 32

Tinkrbl44 · ‎08-23-2010

@cherry wrote:
I would never just make something ,and hand it to someone, and expect them to eat it regardless ,of their medical condition

It is rude to do that

@cherry

It just occurred to me that it's common practice for some parents to take their kids out Trick or Treating, and then toss the candy when they get home .... and give the kids candy that the parents selected. This isn't really any different.

(The only thing missing here is the Deer eating popcorn .... and I bet the Deer made that popcorn himself! LOL)

esmerelda · ‎03-10-2010

@Ms tyrion2 wrote:
@Sooner wrote:
@esmerelda wrote:
@cherry wrote:
Read who is the food pusher and then tell me that...@esme
@cherry They are giving out of kindness and generosity. YOU, on the other hand...what is in your heart when you take them, knowing that you don't want them and you won't and shouldn't eat them. You at least have a good reason. Use it.

Good topic for your "penance services." WWJD?
WWJD? He wasn't worried about salt, fat and sugar. He wasn't on a diet, and he had 12 with him who would probably gobble it up. He also wouldn't reject anyone's offering and hurt their feelings, but I doubt would feel he had to eat it to make them happy. Just my guess.

As anyone who has posted here for any length of times knows, I am not a believer or a religious person.

That being said, I find it very distasteful when someone weaponizes religion. That's what @esmerelda did when when she referenced penance services and WWJD as a way to bait someone in an argument.

I may not believe but I really try hard not to be disrespectful of what others believe.

@Ms tyrion2 @cherry mentioned "penance services" in an earlier post (AND talked about what is and isn't sin). I wouldn't come up with that phrase on my own. Someone else started a confession ("Bless me father, etc.). Others have mentioned religion and referenced parts of it. And you have a problem with me posting something lots of people have worn on bracelets...WWJD? You've got to be kidding.

And how does that "weaponize religion" anyway? For a non-believer you are certainly concerned with references to anything associated with it.

Maybe you need to review the thread and direct your comments to some of the other offenders.

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esmerelda · ‎03-10-2010

@Tinkrbl44 wrote:
@gidgetgh wrote:
Ok, I’ve rested up and am ready to jump back in, LOL.

So here’s my hypothetical.

Neighbor shows up at the door. You don’t know they’re coming so you don’t have time to formulate the very very perfect response.

Doorbell rings. You open the door. A little chit chat and they hand you a Christmas gift in a gift bag and card. You thank them and you wish each other a Merry Christmas and you go back inside.

Into the kitchen you go. You open the gift and it’s a loaf of cranberry walnut pistachio cashew fudge peanut butter bread.

You know you’re not going to eat it.
Your husband isn’t going to it eat.
You don’t work so no office to take it to.
You’re not going to go running back outside after them and say “hey, I’m not eating food gifts. Please take this back”.

So....what do you do with it? Keeping in mind that if you start searching for a charity, they’re not going to take homemade food gifts. The food pantry in our area won’t take anything like that.

And so, then what?

@gidgetgh

Well, maybe those that don't want baked goods with mystery ingredients should think ahead and have a Plan A and a Plan B.

So, wrap up that item and make a point of dropping it off the next day at your Mechanic's business .... or the Vet's office ..... or the Groomer's .... or the Nail Salon .... anywhere that works for your situation. People who want them will eat them, and those that don't will pass ..... no food wasted.

Does that work?

@Tinkrbl44Sure. And if that person has any kind of issue, guess who they'll call.

About other gifts...if you kept getting the wrong size sweater each year from the same person, wouldn't you say something about it? Or would you just keep silently accepting the same wrong size?

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esmerelda · ‎03-10-2010

@gidgetgh wrote:
@Trinity11 wrote:
@cherry wrote:
@Trinity11I doubt that she knew. Ants are attracted to sweet things ,and she probably left the bag on the floor overnight, and they found the food. She probably never checked the bag before she left home
I guess I would have checked it before I ever attempted to give it to anyone. I agree she had no idea but it does speak to the idea that not everyone has the same level of care before gifting food.

@Trinity11 @cherry- when I opened the bag and saw the ants it I just got the willies. It almost made me physically ill.

I felt badly for our neighbor. That was certainly not done intentionally and I would never tell her. That would accomplish nothing.

@gidgetghIt's quite possible she was regifting it to you. And it wasn't her house that had ants.

How will you ever know?

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Cakers3 · ‎06-17-2015

@Ms tyrion2 wrote:
@Sooner wrote:
@esmerelda wrote:
@cherry wrote:
Read who is the food pusher and then tell me that...@esme
@cherry They are giving out of kindness and generosity. YOU, on the other hand...what is in your heart when you take them, knowing that you don't want them and you won't and shouldn't eat them. You at least have a good reason. Use it.

Good topic for your "penance services." WWJD?
WWJD? He wasn't worried about salt, fat and sugar. He wasn't on a diet, and he had 12 with him who would probably gobble it up. He also wouldn't reject anyone's offering and hurt their feelings, but I doubt would feel he had to eat it to make them happy. Just my guess.

As anyone who has posted here for any length of times knows, I am not a believer or a religious person.

That being said, I find it very distasteful when someone weaponizes religion. That's what @esmerelda did when when she referenced penance services and WWJD as a way to bait someone in an argument.

I may not believe but I really try hard not to be disrespectful of what others believe.

@Ms tyrion2@ It's not so much she's weaponizing as she is trying to make @cherry out as a religious hypocrite by pushing the issue that cherry is being a liar for accepting food items she will not use.

She has gone after cherry many times pushing at her faith and trying to make her out as a hypocritical Christian.

And it is only cherry she is chasing on this thread.

"" Compassion is a verb."-Thich Nhat Hanh

Cakers3 · ‎06-17-2015

@gidgetgh wrote:

So....what do you do with it? Keeping in mind that if you start searching for a charity, they’re not going to take homemade food gifts. The food pantry in our area won’t take anything like that.

And so, then what?

@gidgetghTrue. Same in our food bank. They will accept fresh food from hospital cafeterias, restaurants, hotels, country clubs-but the food is distributed the same day to people in emergency shelters.

"" Compassion is a verb."-Thich Nhat Hanh

Tinkrbl44 · ‎08-23-2010

@esmerelda wrote:
@Tinkrbl44 wrote:
@gidgetgh wrote:
Ok, I’ve rested up and am ready to jump back in, LOL.

So here’s my hypothetical.

Neighbor shows up at the door. You don’t know they’re coming so you don’t have time to formulate the very very perfect response.

Doorbell rings. You open the door. A little chit chat and they hand you a Christmas gift in a gift bag and card. You thank them and you wish each other a Merry Christmas and you go back inside.

Into the kitchen you go. You open the gift and it’s a loaf of cranberry walnut pistachio cashew fudge peanut butter bread.

You know you’re not going to eat it.
Your husband isn’t going to it eat.
You don’t work so no office to take it to.
You’re not going to go running back outside after them and say “hey, I’m not eating food gifts. Please take this back”.

So....what do you do with it? Keeping in mind that if you start searching for a charity, they’re not going to take homemade food gifts. The food pantry in our area won’t take anything like that.

And so, then what?

@gidgetgh

Well, maybe those that don't want baked goods with mystery ingredients should think ahead and have a Plan A and a Plan B.

So, wrap up that item and make a point of dropping it off the next day at your Mechanic's business .... or the Vet's office ..... or the Groomer's .... or the Nail Salon .... anywhere that works for your situation. People who want them will eat them, and those that don't will pass ..... no food wasted.

Does that work?
@Tinkrbl44Sure. And if that person has any kind of issue, guess who they'll call.

About other gifts...if you kept getting the wrong size sweater each year from the same person, wouldn't you say something about it? Or would you just keep silently accepting the same wrong size?

@esmerelda

You're assuming that the same person gives the same wrong item every year? Have you ever had someone give you wrong sized sweaters several years in a row? Does this really happen?

If the person habitually insisted on giving food, I would tell them the following November "no more baked goods, please" and mention some allergy testing or intestinal issues, and give them fair warning. If they insisted on shoving baked goods at me after that, well, they probably WILL end up in the trash.

Who wants to give gifts that people tell you they can't use or eat? Is there something wrong with people who do this? I have no idea.

gidgetgh · ‎03-09-2010

@esmerelda wrote:
@gidgetgh wrote:
@Trinity11 wrote:
@cherry wrote:
@Trinity11I doubt that she knew. Ants are attracted to sweet things ,and she probably left the bag on the floor overnight, and they found the food. She probably never checked the bag before she left home
I guess I would have checked it before I ever attempted to give it to anyone. I agree she had no idea but it does speak to the idea that not everyone has the same level of care before gifting food.

@Trinity11 @cherry- when I opened the bag and saw the ants it I just got the willies. It almost made me physically ill.

I felt badly for our neighbor. That was certainly not done intentionally and I would never tell her. That would accomplish nothing.
@gidgetghIt's quite possible she was regifting it to you. And it wasn't her house that had ants.

How will you ever know?

@esmerelda- double yum.

Why is it, when I have a 50/50 guess at something, I'm always 100% wrong?

esmerelda · ‎03-10-2010

@Tinkrbl44 wrote:
@esmerelda wrote:
@Tinkrbl44 wrote:
@gidgetgh wrote:
Ok, I’ve rested up and am ready to jump back in, LOL.

So here’s my hypothetical.

Neighbor shows up at the door. You don’t know they’re coming so you don’t have time to formulate the very very perfect response.

Doorbell rings. You open the door. A little chit chat and they hand you a Christmas gift in a gift bag and card. You thank them and you wish each other a Merry Christmas and you go back inside.

Into the kitchen you go. You open the gift and it’s a loaf of cranberry walnut pistachio cashew fudge peanut butter bread.

You know you’re not going to eat it.
Your husband isn’t going to it eat.
You don’t work so no office to take it to.
You’re not going to go running back outside after them and say “hey, I’m not eating food gifts. Please take this back”.

So....what do you do with it? Keeping in mind that if you start searching for a charity, they’re not going to take homemade food gifts. The food pantry in our area won’t take anything like that.

And so, then what?

@gidgetgh

Well, maybe those that don't want baked goods with mystery ingredients should think ahead and have a Plan A and a Plan B.

So, wrap up that item and make a point of dropping it off the next day at your Mechanic's business .... or the Vet's office ..... or the Groomer's .... or the Nail Salon .... anywhere that works for your situation. People who want them will eat them, and those that don't will pass ..... no food wasted.

Does that work?
@Tinkrbl44Sure. And if that person has any kind of issue, guess who they'll call.

About other gifts...if you kept getting the wrong size sweater each year from the same person, wouldn't you say something about it? Or would you just keep silently accepting the same wrong size?

@esmerelda

You're assuming that the same person gives the same wrong item every year? Have you ever had someone give you wrong sized sweaters several years in a row? Does this really happen?

If the person habitually insisted on giving food, I would tell them the following November "no more baked goods, please" and mention some allergy testing or intestinal issues, and give them fair warning. If they insisted on shoving baked goods at me after that, well, they probably WILL end up in the trash.

Who wants to give gifts that people tell you they can't use or eat? Is there something wrong with people who do this? I have no idea.

@Tinkrbl44Thank you! It's that easy. Tell them no more baked goods. But to some here it's like asking them to stop breathing. They just keep accepting and keeping doing whatever they do with it, except for eating it.

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Mominohio · ‎08-08-2010

I haven't read the replies, as there are just too many of them for me to go through right now, but this topic rears it's head every year at this time.

I have to say, I never knew till joining here and my son being in school, how many people eat 'special' whether for serious health issues, lifestyle, religion, or just particular and fussy.

I grew up with exchanging and eating foods mostly within our extended family, My mom and great aunt baked 300 dozen various Christmas cookies each year and most were given to neighbors and family. Always well received and anticipated.

Fast forward several decades, and when my son went to school, I saw how much food was thrown out, then coming here, just how harsh people are about it.

I don't judge it anymore, as I get it. I also don't bake and give away to anyone anymore, except immediate family that I know eats our foods. We also exchange baked goods with some of the Amish in our area, and I'll admit I throw theirs out immediately. I wouldn't participate at all, but they always make the first move and I feel obligated to reciprocate. You wouldn't guess, but most of them around here can't bake. The taste from the kerosene stoves is terrible too, as well as their hygiene is not good.

The older I get, the more cautious I am about pot luck type things as well. It's really a shame, because I remember growing up at big family reunions and church fellowship dinners where everyone brought food, and such good food too, and a good time was had by all.

For me, it's a waste of calories to go to such events where everything is just something people picked up at the grocery on the way to the event, and couldn't even bother to put in in a pretty dish to serve it, but just slap the plastic container on the table.

There are just some things from the past I miss.