Baby shower question? - Page 2

terrier3 · ‎03-10-2010

I thought you are never supposed to throw a party for yourself...

It's soliciting for presents and cash. Tacky!

game-on · ‎03-22-2010

Mima.... what do you think? Do you know her? Do you want to go?

Love my grandkids · ‎11-24-2013

If I knew the person and wanted to go, I would, regardless of who is hosting it. But that's just me.

JustJules · ‎06-25-2013

What difference does it make who is hosting it or where it will take place? If you care about her and want to participate, attend, take the baby a nice gift to celebrate, and enjoy yourself. Perhaps she has no friends that offered to throw her a shower, which would be very sad, but doesn't mean she isn't entitled to throw herself a celebration. You should feel honored that you were invited. I don't think there is anything proper or improper about having the party at a library. Maybe it was the only place she could find with room available, and they probably don't charge to use the space. I once hosted a baby shower for one of my girlfriends, and at the time I lived in a 2 bedroom condo, so there was definitely not enough room for lots of people. I used our complex recreation facility, and while I had to do some tidying up to make it "presentable", it was a large space and everyone was more focused on the mom-to-be and the decorations and food, and we all had a fun time. Hope "Mary" has a very healthy baby and enjoys the celebration.

ROMARY · ‎04-28-2010

Maybe the mom-to-be doesn't have anyone to give her a baby shower ${#emotions_dlg.sad}$ . Maybe she needs a few items, and wanted to share her excitement for her baby. I would go, for sure. Bring a cute gift. Enjoy the day. Our libraries around here have become a place for kids to go after school until their moms pick them up after work. At least its a safe place for kids to be, and hopefully they are doing their homework there.

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bells4me · ‎03-13-2010

I usually don't attend showers. I just send a gift when the baby is born, usually a hand made blanket or outfit.

ROMARY · ‎04-28-2010

Enjoy the day, and be happy for the mom and wish the baby good health. The mom, I'm thinking, could use a few baby items. Sorry that she doesn't have anyone else to give her a shower (tears right now). Make it a wonderful day for her, and give her plenty of hugs, too!

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JustJules · ‎06-25-2013

On 4/27/2014 terrier3 said:
I thought you are never supposed to throw a party for yourself...

It's soliciting for presents and cash. Tacky!

terrier, with all due respect.... "Mary" isn't throwing a party for herself, the celebration is for her baby. Who knows what that woman's situation is, and how sad if she has no friends that offered to host a baby shower for her. I don't find it tacky at all, the gifts aren't for her per se, they will be for the baby to come, and what mother-to-be doesn't deserve to be pampered or feel special? It wouldn't make any difference to me, even if the invitation said the baby was hosting the party... if it was someone I cared about, I would attend, take a nice gift in celebration, and enjoy myself.

Vamp · ‎04-14-2010

Seems odd to me.

The thing that I think is "wrong" with throwing yourself a party in which presents are expected is it is the equivalent to asking for a handout. If you want to give her a gift to celebrate the arrival of the baby, do it; I would if the person were a good friend of mine (regardless of the invitation). But personally I think it is tacky to ask for gifts. JMHO.

The locale also is odd to me, but since I know nothing about that specific library, I can't really say. All I know is the libraries I have been to have conference rooms for meetings and classes but they aren't really a festive venue for a party, nor do they have any facilities for preparing or cleaning up food--but again, I know nothing about that specific library. I have been to parties at rec rooms in a condo community as Jules describes as well as in a restaurant but never a library. I'm not judging the facilities, but since you ask, it does seem peculiar.

terrier3 · ‎03-10-2010

On 4/27/2014 Jules5280 said:
On 4/27/2014 terrier3 said:
I thought you are never supposed to throw a party for yourself...

It's soliciting for presents and cash. Tacky!

terrier, with all due respect.... "Mary" isn't throwing a party for herself, the celebration is for her baby. Who knows what that woman's situation is, and how sad if she has no friends that offered to host a baby shower for her. I don't find it tacky at all, the gifts aren't for her per se, they will be for the baby to come, and what mother-to-be doesn't deserve to be pampered or feel special? It wouldn't make any difference to me, even if the invitation said the baby was hosting the party... if it was someone I cared about, I would attend, take a nice gift in celebration, and enjoy myself.

I agree that if it was a close friend, I would go - in fact I would probably throw the shower for her myself if she had no one else to help her out!

But this poster doesn't seem to know much about the mom or why the party is at a library...and it seems strange she would be asking US about it - unless this was a very casual acquaintance.