Lucky Charm, thanks for you kind words. It does seem like he has "turned" a bit..actually it feels like they both "turned"..it's the craziest thing because we went from being their favorite adults to hang around with (their words) to this.
Romary, my son and dil both asked us at the sandwich shop, in front of her mom, to be involved in the party by cooking, my dil interjected to her mom "they are the BEST cooks!" and the mom asked "would you want to do that?", we said Yes! it's not work for us, it's our hobby and passion and we love it!..you could have heard a pin drop lol my son and dil both said it would be fun to have it in their backyard at their new house because it's a beautiful yard..we were talking about a place we have rented tables,tents, awnings from before,etc and her mom said well, what if it rains?..wouldn't bugs be all over the food?, stuff like that..it wasn't intense at all but somewhat awkward with her. Both my son and dil also, well, my son actually called me to ask if I wanted to go with him ring shopping and we also talked for a good hour about party ideas, food,etc..he was going to set up a private Facebook page where we could all get together online and chat and plan,etc...my dil never called me by phone but we did instant message for quite awhile for a couple of days back and forth about what kind of food, we talked about how fun it would be to have my daughter and her family over and she and my son over to roll 10 dozen meatballs or so..laughed about how fun a night of that would be (we all did that for my family reunion we cooked for and had a blast!)..etc,etc,,it was all so happy and fun then the bomb dropped and it came by FB msg completely out of the blue and said "hi, so my parents have basically taken over the party and now will be throwing it exclusively. I need a list from you within the week of anyone you would like invited to the party. It is going to be July at Havenot downtown..not sure of the time, well ok, bye"...when I wrote back and said what happened to us being involved and cooking,etc..I got back a blast of why can't we just be happy for them,etc,etc,etc..again as I keep saying..delivery was very unthoughtful, in my opinion. It's been a good decision to take a break from talking w/my son as I feel much more centered and settled this morning..I think doing as Lucky Charm says is a good way to approach it at this time. I appreciate your thoughts and kind words also!!