Community Chat

[DiAnne]

@Happiness Is Inside JOB

I can tell I am lucky just by reading the forums but I also know you have to make an effort.  I have a curiosity about things so I take classes, volunteer, read, etc.  I can't ever imagine sitting around the house but I do know many in that position have health problems and so far I have been fortunate.  

[sidsmom]

Qualifier:

I know many of us don't have a choice, but many of us do.

Many can giggle a little bit when reading this, yes?

I know this describes me to a T some most days!

🙃

[LilacTree]

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@dex wrote:

@LilacTree It is normal if you aren't alone because outings or people make you uncomfortable.I like to be alone  too and actually prefer it at times but I'm never going to admit that to anyone but you...don't want people thinking I am anti social.

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@dex

If I could do it physically, I would be happy to do so . . . but since I can't, I put that away in the back of my newly cleaned closet. 

And you're not anti-social, because you are here!

[chickenbutt]

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sidsmom wrote:

Qualifier:

I know many of us don't have a choice, but many of us do.

I think alot of us can giggle a little bit when reading this, yes?

I know this describes me to a T some days!

🙃

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Hahaha!  Thanks.  I stole it.  

As for somebody deciding that those of us who enjoy spending a lot of time alone are messed up.  NOT!   Oh, and - wow.

[jubilant]

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@SeaMaiden wrote:

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@jubilant wrote:

I believe alone time is good and has a purpose.  I also think people need people in order to have a balanced life.  We weren't meant to be islands unto ourselves.  It's not healthy.  How much time you need alone is up to each person. 
Some will need more time alone than others. If you find you spend a large part of your life alone....well...it's not the healthiest way to live, imo.

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@jubilant  How can you say spending a large part of your life alone is not the healthiest way to live?  I do not think that statement is true. 

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************    The happiest people I know spend time with other people.  It get's your mind off of yourself and you learn a lot from other people.  I didn't mean you have to be a social butterfly but reaching out to others because you have something to offer and so do they.  I have been thinking lately, if something happened to DH, what would I do?  I have never been alone, although this past year I have spent much more time at home alone than I ever have.  I just don't think it's something to get in the habit of every hour of every day.  We need each other.

[mistriTsquirrel]

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@goldensrbest wrote:

I am very lonely,  i would love someone to go out to lunch with, the movies ,things like that, i just can't seem to make it happen.

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@goldensrbest

You seem nice.  Would you like some pizza?   Nom nom nom

[chickenbutt]

Pizza squirrel!   Ooh, now I want pizza too.   Can I join you and Goldens?

I forgot to eat anything before I went to the dentist this morning and I'm getting kind of hungry.  

[mistriTsquirrel]

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@chickenbutt wrote:

Pizza squirrel!   Ooh, now I want pizza too.   Can I join you and Goldens?

I forgot to eat anything before I went to the dentist this morning and I'm getting kind of hungry.  

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@chickenbutt

Sure, chickenbutt!!

Note to self: always order the large pizza.  heh

[tansy]

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@Noel7 wrote:

There are studies which say only children rarely feel lonely.  That has always been true for me.  I had a best friend who was also an only and she and I talked about it several times.  She passed way too soon, but anyway, she said she never felt lonely, either. 

I do have a husband at home, so that probably helps, too.  Truth told, I really value alone time, which I rarely get 

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I'm an only, too, and am usually quite happy to be left to my own devices, but I would love to have a best friend again like I did in high school.  

[tansy]

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@SeaMaiden wrote:

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@jubilant wrote:

I believe alone time is good and has a purpose.  I also think people need people in order to have a balanced life.  We weren't meant to be islands unto ourselves.  It's not healthy.  How much time you need alone is up to each person. 
Some will need more time alone than others. If you find you spend a large part of your life alone....well...it's not the healthiest way to live, imo.

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@jubilant  How can you say spending a large part of your life alone is not the healthiest way to live?  I do not think that statement is true. 

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@SeaMaiden @jubilant -- There's a lot of talk lately that more sociable people live longer, having a wider support net I guess.  I'm not convinced because too much socializing is stressful to me.