Are you lonely? - Page 4

mistriTsquirrel · ‎07-17-2010

@LilacTree wrote:
@mistriTsquirrel wrote:
@LilacTree wrote:
@mistriTsquirrel wrote:
Most of the time I prefer being alone to being around people, because the people I have to be around are hard to tolerate.

@mistriTsquirrel
I'm familiar with your story, Mistri. You're always in my thoughts because I have a tree outside my bedroom window which is next to my desk, and at least 100 squirrels that I see every day. You should live here! LOL
@LilacTree 100?!?! You must feed them a lot of pizza!!

@mistriTsquirrel
Actually we are not allowed to feed them. This is a very "woodsy" development, so there are many critters around. We can't feed the birds either. Because of the warm winter, the squirrels kept breeding and management is trying to find a way to relocate them (not kill them, thankfully).

@LilacTree If there's no pizza, why stick around?

Weird.

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CareBears · ‎08-30-2015

I am alone quite a bit, my DH works long & hard hours so when he is home he is often times sleeping or falling asleep.

I choose to not have any local friends, and my siblings live in other states and in Germany, and our daughter is busy with her life and we seldom see or hear from her, so yes I do get lonely at times, but then other times I cherish my alone time, it depends on what stress I have going on in my life, and how much sleep I am getting or not getting.

It also depends on my health, I have chronic medical issues that can affect me differently every day of the week, if the pain has consistently been bothering me I seem to become very lonely as I want to be comforted over the rough spots and being alone just does not cut it.

So ask me tomorrow and I will more than likely give you another answer, LOL!

SeaMaiden · ‎03-10-2010

@LilacTree wrote:
It's amazing how used I am to being alone. Is that normal?

Just a random thought.

@LilacTree I think it is healthy to be able to be alone and be happy. I know so many people that can not go one day alone with no phone calls nothing. That is so sad. I can go day and days alone. My husband works a lot and travels so I spend lots of time alone. I keep busy, do things I love like walking, yard work..TV, online chatting...never feel lonely. I have no children, and no immediate family left anymore. Actually, since I quit working in 2013, I no longer have any friends either. And I like It! Is this odd? Is this wrong? I do not depend on others to make me complete. If I want people, I go shopping and visit with other shoppers. Etc.. and that is enough.

Is this NORMAL? For me it is. If you are happy, that is all that matters 👌🙂👍

SeaMaiden · ‎03-10-2010

@SilleeMee wrote:
I'm very much of a loner. I live alone, eat alone, shop alone...you name it. I enjoy being by myself most of the time. There are times when I feel lonely and it's usually when I'm missing someone from my past but it rarely happens.

@SilleeMee We would make great friends! 🙂

ALRATIBA · ‎07-15-2016

@LilacTree wrote:
It's amazing how used I am to being alone. Is that normal?

Just a random thought.

@LilacTree

I was just thinking about that a couple of days ago. I lived with family or husband from birth to age 50. I've lived alone since age 50.

Absolutely love being alone.

LilacTree · ‎03-25-2012

@SeaMaiden wrote:
@LilacTree wrote:
It's amazing how used I am to being alone. Is that normal?

Just a random thought.

@LilacTree I think it is healthy to be able to be alone and be happy. I know so many people that can not go one day alone with no phone calls nothing. That is so sad. I can go day and days alone. My husband works a lot and travels so I spend lots of time alone. I keep busy, do things I love like walking, yard work..TV, online chatting...never feel lonely. I have no children, and no immediate family left anymore. Actually, since I quit working in 2013, I no longer have any friends either. And I like It! Is this odd? Is this wrong? I do not depend on others to make me complete. If I want people, I go shopping and visit with other shoppers. Etc.. and that is enough.

Is this NORMAL? For me it is. If you are happy, that is all that matters 👌🙂👍

@SeaMaiden

Happy? I never know how to answer that question. Let's just say I have accepted my life as it is. I did the best I could, and I approach single digit years left knowing that, even as I acknowledge that I did it wrong sometimes, right sometimes, and absolutely stupid sometimes.

I have loved all times though, and been loved. That's enough for me.

Formerly Ford1224
We must always take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented. Elie Wiesel 1986

151949 · ‎03-09-2010

OP - I thought you lived with your daughter , am I confused?

When we were working my DH travelled for his job and I worked shifts, holidays & weekends so both of us had a large share of alone time. Now we are retired it seems time alone is a very valuable commodity for us both.Something each of us treasure.

Pook · ‎03-20-2010

While I can be quite an extrovert and enjoy getting together with friends, I am happiest when I am alone - with my dog and whatever pets I have. I would sooner stay home. I do have my SO but we are both loners. He does his own thing and I do mine. during the day and we often don't talk much. I would feel so stiffled if we had to be doing everthing together every minute of the day like so many I know do! Everyone finds that strange but it works for us. I like my own company and privacy.

151949 · ‎03-09-2010

@RetRN wrote:
Of course, many people live alone. They do just fine, getting out to do the things they enjoy or having people over. You don't have to be around people all of the time to be happy.

I have girlfriends who are married and girlfriends who are single. It seems those who are married get more involved with family and spend much less time out with friends than those who are single , who have a large support system of friends - male & female they can totally count on.

chickenbutt · ‎03-09-2010

Nope! I'm alone most of the time and I LOVE it. Well, except for the dog and the bird.

I'm really not at all needy. I totally enjoy being alone and if the time comes that I don't have as much alone time it will take me a major adjustment. I like quiet.

My husband is a talker so whenever he is here, it's talk talk talk to the extent that I have to work hard not to get annoyed. That's just me, though, it's not on him. I'm pretty used to it now. I just appreciate the quiet time and work toward participating in the talk time. He understands me and gets it, so it's not a sore point or anything.