Are you happy? - Page 2

gmkb · ‎07-29-2012

Happiness is a choice you make. That doesn't mean you won't have hard times. So yes, I am content and at peace.

ID2 · ‎06-25-2012

My dh just retired last June. So we are now living our dream at our new cottage up north. Happy? Extremely!

"Pure Michigan"

bri20 · ‎03-10-2016

Yes, very happy.

Life is challenging sometimes, but ultimately I'm a very upbeat person.

Herfy · ‎03-27-2010

This stopped me in my tracks this morning. I am so miserable and not sure what I'm going to do about it. I have a wonderful husband and I recently went from working 5 days a week to three days so a lot less stress there. I go to the gym four days a week and just keep plugging away.

I had dental surgery last August which resulted in an infection that the dentist could not figure out and told me my body will absorb it. Ended up in the hospital with a portion of my jaw removed. All the implants that were placed did not take and I was on an IV every 8 hours for two months. I gained 10 lbs. from not being allowed to do anything for two months and I have been taking an oral antibiotic for 3 months. Still trying to get my money back from the dentist.

I have three grown children, all living two hours away in the same city. My oldest has given me two beautiful grandchildren, 2-1/2 and 2 mos. Unfortunately we are the ‘other grandparents’. My daughter-in-law does not like company and of course her family babysits a lot. We only see them once a month because their weekends are very busy and they don’t want to travel with the baby yet. They will be coming for Easter. My granddaughter will not go anywhere with us she only wants her parents or the other grandparents. My second son’s unemployment ran out so we are paying his bills. He recently got a minimum wage job so hopefully that will help. My daughter and I have not spoken to each other for a month. I did not take sides in argument she had with her brother so she told me to (you know what) myself and she hates her family. She has blocked my calls. It’s terrible but when one of them calls I don’t even want to answer the phone because I get so down in the dumps when they call.

I am trying to figure what I can do to make myself happy. I hate feeling like this.

Sorry to be debbie-downer but it helps to just write it down.

Thanks

cotton4me · ‎03-09-2010

I think this is a complex issue because various factors come into play. Genetics play a role in happiness levels. Here’s an excerpt from one article (http://greatist.com/happiness/are-some-people-just-born-be-happy).

“Brain structure also plays a role in the happiness equation. The brain has billions of neurons, or brain cells, and neurotransmitters, or chemical messengers that communicate between brain cells. Certain neurotransmitters regulate emotions, and deficiencies in neurotransmitter levels can bring on the blues. Genetic factors partially determine the amount of neurotransmitters in the brain, meaning some people are predisposed to psychological issues like depression.”

I used to be quite negative, always believed in Murphey’s Law, etc. I was raised that way but I later realized genetics play a role too. At one point I took a course that really helped me change my outlook and perspective and I became much more positive. However, I still feel that I have to work at being positive; whereas, for some people it comes more naturally.

Say Nay · ‎03-12-2010

I am content. I much prefer being content than being happy which ebbs and flows.

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Pearlee · ‎06-11-2011

If you're happy and you know it clap your hands.....

Goldengate8361 · ‎01-27-2014

@cotton4me cotton ball is right. Physiology plays a significant role. For my entire life, I've been prone to depression - which can have nothing to do with external events. Fortunately, antidepressants help to some extent. Also, many of us do not have a support network and may not have time to devote to building friendships or doing volunteer work,etc .....because we must work; we have jobs. Some of us are single, no family, and very few--if any-- friends. I'm not complaining about it; I just wanted to give voice to a different situation that some may not be privy to.