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[LilacTree]

Coincidentally, I just posted on my FB page yesterday "I would say I was 50% right."

Odd for me since I never post anything but family photos.

But looking back at my "personal ledger," I feel I did as much wrong as I did right.  I made whopper mistakes that would have changed my life (but then I would not have this family, it would have been a completely different family). 

Things I did wrong or right had major effects on my father, my siblings, and my children and grandchildren would not exist.

But I was/am successful in several important ways as well.  I did better than most as a single (divorced) mother than others in that position did.  I worked a full time job and never depended on anyone else to support me.  Mostly, I have loved my family and my children and grandchildren more than myself.  I am honest and can therefore honestly say I never deliberately set out to hurt anyone.  And I am overly generous to those I love . . . to the extent that it has held me back financially . . . but I really don't care about that.

Some things I forgive myself for, others I can't.  I have had to learn to live with that and not hate myself.  I think our eternity lies within the effect our lives had on others.  That is my idea of an "after life."

So again I say, "I was 50% right."  And I like myself for that because it wasn't easy.

[sidsmom]

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@chrystaltree wrote:

Sure I can.  But the moderators might have a problem with it...

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Giggle.

Yeah, I read the title & thought,

'WHOA....oh that's right,

it's not Reddit so the responses should be pretty tame'

[wildlifewitch]

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@shaggygirl wrote:

Defining that term eludes me too, along with defining what people mean when they need to "find themselves".

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Figuring out who one really is, what one's soul desires, as people wear masks and fake it. It is about self worth.

[LilacTree]

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@shaggygirl wrote:

Defining that term eludes me too, along with defining what people mean when they need to "find themselves".

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@shaggygirl

I'm not too sure about the "find myself" goal either.  It usually means abandoning people one should love and care for. 

I once had a friend who constantly said "It's my turn now."  It had always been her turn . . . she was the most selfish person I knew.  Nothing was ever enough for her.