Are women responsible if their husbands - Page 7

jeanlake · ‎03-10-2010

If I've learned anything, it's that we can't control other people's behaviors. Whether spouse, children, relatives, friends, neighbors. And we aren't responsible for others' behaviors.

"I took a walk in the woods and came out taller than the trees." Henry David Thoreau

Nancy Drew · ‎03-11-2010

Not unless there is a new law I am unaware of. Who on earth would get married if we were responsible for our spouse’s behavior?

Wrong is still wrong just because you benefited from it.

NicksmomESQ · ‎08-19-2014

Women aren’t responsible for their husbands behavior if they don’t know about it.If they know & look the other way then they are enabling them.Their silence turns them into accomplices!!

I don’t know why a woman would stay with a man that sexually harasses women. That for me would be an absolute deal breaker.How could they allow those men to be around their children?

No amount of financial security would get me to stay!! These men are pigs 🐖!!

hckynut · ‎03-10-2010

@Maudlynn

No they are not. Marriage joins individuals into one unit with each part being responsible for their own actions. My wife responsible for my "telling it like I see it"?

Neither my wife nor myself "let" each other do anything. We are not subordinate to each other, we are equals.

Whomever made "that comment" needs something more to occupy their mind if the actually believe that nonsense.

hckynut

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jubilant · ‎06-10-2010

NO! If, however, I found out my husband was doing this, I would consider it breaking our marriage vows and grounds for divorce. The first thing I would do is insist he get professional help. If he refused to change, a divorce would ensue.

Maudlynn · ‎06-21-2017

@Tinkrbl44 wrote:
@Maudlynn wrote:
are harassers? Asking because I noticed a comment that women who "let" their husbands harass are now speaking out.
My opinion, no woman is responsible for the deeds of another- even if that person is their spouse.
@Maudlynn

Where did you see this?

@Tinkrbl44 It was stated in a now- closed thread about Mark Halperin.

JaneMarple · ‎05-23-2011

@jubilant wrote:
NO! If, however, I found out my husband was doing this, I would consider it breaking our marriage vows and grounds for divorce. The first thing I would do is insist he get professional help. If he refused to change, a divorce would ensue.

@jubilant it's not as easy as you may think it is, this past week several women have come forward saying that they were harassed by a beloved member of our country, should his wife insist that he seek professional help and/or divorce him?

You Don't Own Me- Leslie Gore
(You don't Know) How Glad I Am- Nancy Wilson

Katcat1 · ‎07-21-2011

@Maudlynn, What I don't understand is Weinstein had a beautiful wife and he was harrassing all these women. No one is responsible for someone else's behavior.

kindness is strength

hckynut · ‎03-10-2010

@Katcat1

I think power and control are part of it. A beautiful wife isn't enough for power and money hungry individuals. Just my opinion of course.

hckynut

hckynut(john)

software · ‎06-08-2016

@esmerelda wrote:
@software wrote:
@Maudlynn wrote:
are harassers? Asking because I noticed a comment that women who "let" their husbands harass are now speaking out.
My opinion, no woman is responsible for the deeds of another- even if that person is their spouse.

Responsible, maybe not, accountable YES

If you see child abuse, you report it.
If you saw a woman being harrassed or abused in public, you would step in or at least report it.
I don't want to live in a world where people look the other way.
@software Accountable? You mean they could/should be held to account? Like...charged? punished? How do you mean "accountable"?

If you are sincerely asking, I'll answer, if you are just being snarky, then stop reading.

My definition of a marriage is 2 become one, and both partners are accountable to each other in that marriage, for example, financial decisions. I would not want to be married to a man who hides his salary and spends his money the way he wants-- whether it be for good things (paying the power bill) or for bad (hiring an escort, gambling).

That goes for the woman, as well.

No secrets. Decisions are made together for a common good. If I found out my partner was doing anything illegal (sex harrassment) I would have to call bad behavior and either divorce him, or separate myself in some way and possibly turn him in to authorities. That's my definition of accountability. How far I take that accountability would depend on the seriousness of the behavior.

Works the same for any negative behavior in a marriage. Gambling, drug addiction, sex addiction.

Just my opinion, answering your question, not up for debate.