Are You Happy - Page 8

Jordan2 · ‎03-16-2010

@Northray wrote:
Not right now. No. Lost my Gran right after Christmas to the worst disease that can strike a person and their families. Dementia. A freaking crazy making illness that traumatizes everyone involved.

@Northray I'm so sorry for the loss of your Gran. It is heartbreaking to watch a loved one going through that, it is also hard for that person's loved ones knowing they no longer are the person they once were.

on the bay · ‎03-09-2010

@sabatini wrote:
When I was a little kid, I remember thinking 'If I woke up tomorrow and had gone blind, then I would've been so lucky yesterday!'
That still holds true. Lucky, lucky me.

@sabatini,

I had to laugh at this because I can relate. I don't know if this is the same thing, but I would think of these things that might happen and didn't want to happen like if I got cancer than I could wear a lot of nice wigs,

or when I have a cold or break a foot or something I'd think it makes me really appreciate not having a cold or being able to walk without a crutch-when I don't have it anymore- things I didn't especially notice or appreciate as much.

I had an amazing and wonderful friend who died recently who always said she didn't think about all the things she couldn't do anymore, but was glad for the things she still could do. She was so inspiring and uplifting but very compassionate too.

For me I am sometimes "happy" and many times very sad mostly from loss of loved ones.

But I was telling someone the other day who was very depressed that somehow even if it is a "terrible, no good, very bad day!" (thank you "Alexander and the Very Bad Day"), something happens that even if just for a moment, is a light in the day and something that makes me happy at that moment.

And in terms of love from family and friends, despite all that goes on in life, they are my happiness and also up above also.

@kate2357,

Your posts made me think of so many the things I feel too and what I might write I do think animals, birds make me think of signs from above.

I do think happiness however we define it is an ever-changing thing, for me at least. Many days like a roller coaster of emotions, everything under the sun because something is always happening in my life and my family and friends to change how we all feel. Death, illness, worry, and good happy laughing things too. I think anyone who is so very happy all the time maybe is a robot, not very honest about it, in a sterile cloud of illusion, or has no feelings for anyone else to put it honestly. It is easy to say happiness is a choice when your world never comes crashing down.

Though in a study of veterans they did say that over 90% of those with depression, anxiety and ptsd, were much improved if they thought about things they were grateful for every day. I think that works because our brains cannot dwell or focus so much on the negative at the same time we are thinking of the positive, things we are really grateful for. I try to remember that too when really in the rabbit hole of sadness.

I've looked at studies of the happiest countries in the world. Very interesting stuff. But then it can be depressing because I think, jeez, I wished we all lived there!😕

Anyway, @Jordan2,

thank you for this brave thread and all who posted and lets keep looking up thru tears and smiles too.

"If you walk the footsteps of a stranger, you'll learn things you never knew. Can you sing with all the voices of the mountains? can you paint with all the colors of the wind?"

chickenbutt · ‎03-09-2010

I wish some people would stop with the 'you can be happy no matter what - buck up' stuff. My dog just died today so how can I freakin' turn that happy? Never mind, please don't respond. I am completely broken right now and don't need anybody schooling me on how I should feel. Maybe I can deal better another day.

You know what? Those who haven't had horrible struggles in life and can just turn the 'happy' on whenever they want, I'm glad for you. Some of us have struggles you can't even imagine and some of that stuff sticks with you. Nobody wants to be miserable.

I should stop. Sorry if I offended anybody. I'm just trying to find a way to get my mind off this for a bit by doing something other than cleaning blood off the carpet, moving his things, and knowing that our hearts are broken.

Tinkrbl44 · ‎08-23-2010

@Jordan2

Huh ... interesting comments.

Years ago someone told me they thought that "happy" wasn't a constant state of being .... it was usually the result of something happening ... learning you're getting a large tax refund, a good relationship gets better .... something like that. It's not how you should evalutate or measure your life.

Their point was "happy" comes and goes .... the real question was "Are you content?".

Even if I don't happen to be happy on any given day, I am usually content.

geezerette · ‎03-16-2010

@chickenbutt

I'm so sorry to hear about your dog's passing. Of course your heart is broken, but I'm sure your beloved pup had a wonderful life with you. One of the hardest things in our lives is losing our pets.💔🐾🙏

Mom2Dogs · ‎03-09-2010

@Tinkrbl44 I agree, I am content, I have all I need.

When I posted I was referring to my personal life as it pertains to friends and keeping myself busy...that needs some work.

chickenbutt · ‎03-09-2010

@geezerette wrote:
@chickenbutt

I'm so sorry to hear about your dog's passing. Of course your heart is broken, but I'm sure your beloved pup had a wonderful life with you. One of the hardest things in our lives is losing our pets.💔🐾🙏

Thank you, so much, for your kindness. It is very much appreciated.

I don't want to turn this about me and probably shouldn't have said anything here. I just get tired of people saying you can just choose to be happy, no matter what, and it struck a chord I guess.

💖

geezerette · ‎03-16-2010

@chickenbutt

Tinkrbl44 · ‎08-23-2010

@chickenbutt

I am so sorry for your loss.

Northray · ‎08-29-2013

@Jordan2 wrote:
@Northray wrote:
Not right now. No. Lost my Gran right after Christmas to the worst disease that can strike a person and their families. Dementia. A freaking crazy making illness that traumatizes everyone involved.
@Northray I'm so sorry for the loss of your Gran. It is heartbreaking to watch a loved one going through that, it is also hard for that person's loved ones knowing they no longer are the person they once were.

Thank you. It's been hard watching the transformation.

Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.

-Rumi