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[CrazyKittyLvr2]

DH would have been surprised I spoke up, I never do, but he knew her and he would have understood and probably chuckled.

My sister was not upset especially when she found about the remark she made to me about even being there.

BTW my niece said you are not allowed to raise your voice at my cousin's house it disturbs her cats.  She even complains when a horn blows on the road.  Oy!!! 

[GizmosMom]

Why should one woman be allowed to behave like the hemoroid that she obviously is without being called on it?  Children aren't that rude.

[millieshops]

@CrazyKittyLvr2Hope it's okay if I steal your badge question.  Seems like the perfect way to deal with too much unsolicited advice.

[Vivian]

One of my children has a bit of the know-it-all in her. She sees nothing wrong with judging members of our family. This behavior has resulted in family members keeping their distance from her, for fear of being insulted and chastised.

At work, we had an IT specialist who was the troubleshooter for our large division at the university where I worked. He treated us as if we were nincompoops when he came to our office to deal with our computers. He’d invariably start throwing computer buzz words at us, never explaining what he was talking about, insinuating that he knew everything and we knew nothing. I had had enough. When he started spewing his tech-talk, I started speaking to him in French. After I had given him what-for en français, I told him, in English, that he now understood what the rest of us were going through when trying to decipher his jargon.

[CinNC]

Glad you spoke up. If it's a solitary comment it's easier to brush off, but it sounds like it's been a lifestyle. Your neice's reaction was priceless. 

[CrazyKittyLvr2]

@millieshops   lol.  Use it in good health.  

[beba51]

My whole family are experts...........LOL You made me laugh and I haven't had a good laught for a week. Good for you. She will avoid you at the next event, problem solved. The person who said you where rude, is the pot stirrer in her family. LOL 

[fthunt]

*****  Five gold stars for that one............

[Free2be]

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@beba51 wrote:

My whole family are experts...........LOL You made me laugh and I haven't had a good laught for a week. Good for you. She will avoid you at the next event, problem solved. The person who said you where rude, is the pot stirrer in her family. LOL 

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For the record, the poster your refer to said the comment was rude, not that the poster was a rude person.  Probably a good idea to not start calling names and attributing personality characteristics onto other posters for expressing an opinion on this humorous and kind of sad thread.

[Puppy Lips]

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@CrazyKittyLvr2 wrote:

on everything?  I went to a small family get together yesterday.  Had a good time with my niece's family that lives acrosss the state.  My sister felt bad for our cousin who would be alone and invited her. She never married, no kids (doesn't really like them), and is the most regimented person I ever met. I haven't seen her in several years.

The 1st thing out of her mouth was about me being there so soon after DH's death. I guess I am supposed to stay home and wear widow weeds and a mourning veil. Husband wouldn't want that nor would I want him to not do things if I were gone. So she's a marriage expert.  I kept my mouth shut.

She thought my T- shirt was to long.  It covered my butt.  Fashion expert. Didn't respond.

2 and 4 yr. olds were in a molded kddie pool on the deck with 5 in. of water and surrounded by adults and she said they needed floaty things on their arms. They were never alone outside or unattended.  Parent expert. Said nothing.

At meal time she  was appalled my sister used mayo and not yogurt in the potato salad and horror of horrors she also  put in egg.  When she started giving me stats on what a time bomb the scant 1/2 cup  of potato salad on my plate was I had it. I asked to see her badge. When she said she didn't understand I told her when she was elected Captain of the food police she should have gotten a badge and I wanted to see it. She didn't bring anything and if you are that picky bring something that suits you.

My niece got up kissed me on the cheek and said thank you I've wanted to do that for years.

I just could not put up with her anymore. 

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@CrazyKittyLvr2 Good for you for speaking up.  We do have a "know it all" in our family.  Sometimes we correct him, sometimes we let it go.  We also have someone who thinks he is better than everyone else, and he won't give me the time of day, I guess because I can't "do" anything for him.  But your cousin was making personal comments about and to you.  Not cool.  She should absolutely be called out on it.  She was out of line and rude, and you do not have to tollerate that.  No wonder she never married and thank goodness she did not have children.