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06-20-2018 08:33 AM
I was OKAY with this new way of registries thinking as others mentioned, it is easier to keep up with the Thank you's, until the last 2 weddings when we did not recieve Thank you's because "we got a got confirmation when the gift was purchased." !!!!!!!!
06-20-2018 08:59 AM
@beach-mom - I do know the bride and/or groom can check the registry once it's been made public to see what's been bought and who bought it.
Yep, a niece is getting married Saturday and I've always gotten a gift for a wedding shower and then given a check for the wedding. She was registered at BB&Beyond and my sister in law and I wanted to each buy something off registry but when you ordered it online (at the store or at home) you had to jump thru hoops to bypass the option of buying it and having it sent directly to the couple's home. We wanted the gift sent to us so we could take it to the shower. The registry is still online and you can't see who bought what but you can pull down the screen and have it show all items purchased and any gifts still available to buy.
Years ago I stopped taking a gift to weddings - if I was buying gift for the wedding I'd have them sent directly to their home. Two weeks ago I sent the card with a check to my niece's apartment. She's not opening the gifts at the reception and as it is - gifts brought to the wedding will be loaded up and taken to their home by the best man bc the couple will be staying at a hotel on the airport grounds that night bc they have an extremely early flight to their honeymoon resort.
06-20-2018 09:01 AM
I'm such a bah humbug kind of gal when it comes to weddings in general. I don't like them, because of the drama, expense and hype.
This newest registry thing I guess is ok if that is what people want, but I too have to ask, where is the fun and the surprise in anything anymore?
And the trend to ask people to donate money for your house, your honeymoon, your year off to backpack across Europe or whatever is just tacky. I totally support the young couple doing what they want to do, just don't ask other people to pay for it.
I guess I'm just old school. Back in the day, most people getting married were coming straight out of their parents homes, or recently out of college or the military, and were not only younger than many marrying today, but much less equipped to set up housekeeping, many never having really had a real place of their own.
Showers and wedding gifts were about getting the couple off to a start with the things they would need in their new life together. The things were most generally practical (although as high end as one could give, to make it special and lasting), necessary, very much appreciated, and used.
Today's weddings are of people mostly older than those previous generation, mostly more financially stable, many having lived on their own or together and having complete functioning households. Many marriages are second (or third) and people are actually getting rid of things as the unite with yet another household.
As most things these days, marriage is very different. As other customs go by the wayside or change to fit the times, maybe the gifting surrounding weddings needs to change too.
I'd say if people are happy giving something like money for a trip or a house, so be it. That is great. But I am questioning why I'm asked to give to people who already have a full life, and seem to just want to play at the beginning of their marriage. It's fine if that is what they want to do, I just don't feel all warm and fuzzy about buying into it.
06-20-2018 09:07 AM
This isn't about weddings - but my family's experience with money. Growing up, we didn't have a lot. My father started a business but couldn't get a loan - he had a few close realatives/friends that lent him the balance.
He worked very hard and kept repaying them back as he couldn/ Although we needed a car to get the goods for the business, he forgo buying a car for 2 years. He said he wouldn't look right if I have a car and didn't repay the loans first.
His first car was 1972 Buick Skylark - all debts paid off first. He never had a credit card - belieivng if you can't pay for it, don't buy it. He is now 93 and cash and carry kind of guy.
06-20-2018 09:17 AM
06-20-2018 09:25 AM
i feel these events have become more like "entitlements" and i have no interest in that. i love helping people starting out -especially kids of friends. but these days, with new attitudes and lack of thank you notes, i admit to losing interest. i think making a contribution in new couple's name to a local food bank might be my "new" attitude. i am sure that would be appreciated -by the food bank!
06-20-2018 09:36 AM
Welcome to the entitled expected generation. The entitled generation expects a big lavish wedding, expensive impractical lavish gift list (what happened to pots and pans, dishes, sheets and towels), and help with over-the-top honeymoons.
Everything in life so far has been handed to this generation so why stop now? Along the way they weren’t taught proper etiquette, hand-written thank you notes, etc.
Where were these entitlements and expectations way back in the good old days?
06-20-2018 09:47 AM
I am thrilled to be attending this wedding - we love both the bride and groom, and we've known the groom for a long time.
But their registry was unlike any other I've seen so far. It included items with pictures from different sites. When you clicked on the picture, it took you directly to the site. No problem there. But after the gift was purchased a little banner popped up that said "Thank you. Jack and Jill have been notified of your gift." So much for a surprise.
I have no problem getting something off the registry, but I do have a problem with the bride and groom knowing exactly who gave what gift BEFORE they open it.
Have any of you ever seen anything like this?
@beach-mom The bride and groom can see what is purchased on the registry so the element of surprise is already removed.
Unless you are commenting on the "Thank you" pop up?
06-20-2018 09:50 AM
What is a gift? Is it for the recipient or the giver? Is the aim to have fun giving it or to give someone something they want to make them happy?
Is it REALLY better to give than receive? Doesn't sound like it so much any more.
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