Amount for wedding gift - Page 5

Hayfield · ‎03-10-2010

Give what you can afford and what you feel like giving them, it is a gift afterall. Also, it depends on how close I am to the bride/groom or the parents and/or it's a relative.

Shepherd · ‎08-08-2017

This whole idea of gift giving has gotten out of hand. If you haven't been close to those who send invites, it makes one think I'm being invited in hopes of receiving a gift. Jaded but true.

Some of the amounts that have been suggested here are outrageous! I mean if they were my close relative or friend, someone I spent considerable time with,of course. Otherwise, not.

Bottom line: send or do what your heart tells you & what you can afford. There is no shame in honoring to your budget.

Mj12 · ‎03-09-2010

@panda1234 wrote:
@Shorty2U wrote:
My son just got married .. Most gave 100 to 150 or 200 (and some close as in immediate family members and the couples employers gave more as they are the ones that gave 200 and up). Id say the average was 100 though. (There were a few that gave less than 100 but only a few) I say give what you can afford if you are not that close. Close and immediate family usually give the most (is what I saw)
@Shorty2U This is off topic, but I wanted to ask you something. My son is getting married in the fall. I am going to be interested to know what our side gave as gifts $$. My question is, how were you able to find this out? I would never ask and he would never say unless I asked. I guess I am not going to find out.

@panda1234 My stepson was married last year - I can honestly say that the only gift I knew about, was the one my husband and I gave him/his bride. We never mentioned it, neither did they. I only asked about their timing for sending out thank you notes.

Lipstickdiva · ‎03-10-2010

I live in Ohio and I got married just about 28 years ago. At that time I got anywhere from $5.00 to $200.00 from a very close relative. I would say $25.00 was the norm. If I opened an envelope with $50.00 from a couple, I thought I'd hit the jackpot.

My DH and I give $100.00 for a wedding if we attend. Someone would have to be really close to me to get more than that. I know in other areas of the country, the typical gift is much higher.

q-girl · ‎10-05-2011

@JeanLouiseFinch wrote:
My understanding is that the rule of thumb to go by is to give at least equal to the cost of your meal (or meals, if your spouse or SO is accompanying you) at the reception. That can differ from region to region. If you don't know the couple well and plan not to attend, you aren't under any obligation to send a gift. If you still choose to, it can be less than the "rule".

My son recently got married. Some guests were considerate and generous while others gave nothing at all even though they (and their spouse/SO) ate the meal of their choice and had free drinks. Go figure.

OK . . This makes me crazy. What does the cost of "your meal" have to do with the amount of the gift you give the the Newlyweds? You were INVITED to a celebration given by the newlyweds and/or their families, not asked to help pay for the wedding. Your gift should be considered a symbol of your well wishes to the happy couple, not your admission fee.

My gift depends on how close I am to the Bride&Groom, or to their families, but not less than $100. This is whether or not I and/or my husband attend, and, if we do attend, whether the wedding is a full blown top-shelf open bar with a gourmet sit down dinner or if it is simply coffee and cookies in someone's backyard. Either is a celebration of love and my gift does not vary.

Hugs . . .

Life is tough, but I am tougher!!

panda1234 · ‎04-27-2015

@Mj12 wrote:
@panda1234 wrote:
@Shorty2U wrote:
My son just got married .. Most gave 100 to 150 or 200 (and some close as in immediate family members and the couples employers gave more as they are the ones that gave 200 and up). Id say the average was 100 though. (There were a few that gave less than 100 but only a few) I say give what you can afford if you are not that close. Close and immediate family usually give the most (is what I saw)
@Shorty2U This is off topic, but I wanted to ask you something. My son is getting married in the fall. I am going to be interested to know what our side gave as gifts $$. My question is, how were you able to find this out? I would never ask and he would never say unless I asked. I guess I am not going to find out.
@panda1234 My stepson was married last year - I can honestly say that the only gift I knew about, was the one my husband and I gave him/his bride. We never mentioned it, neither did they. I only asked about their timing for sending out thank you notes.

@Shorty2U Thank you, I guess there are some things we will never know.

panda1234 · ‎04-27-2015

@Mj12 wrote:
@panda1234 wrote:
@Shorty2U wrote:
My son just got married .. Most gave 100 to 150 or 200 (and some close as in immediate family members and the couples employers gave more as they are the ones that gave 200 and up). Id say the average was 100 though. (There were a few that gave less than 100 but only a few) I say give what you can afford if you are not that close. Close and immediate family usually give the most (is what I saw)
@Shorty2U This is off topic, but I wanted to ask you something. My son is getting married in the fall. I am going to be interested to know what our side gave as gifts $$. My question is, how were you able to find this out? I would never ask and he would never say unless I asked. I guess I am not going to find out.
@panda1234 My stepson was married last year - I can honestly say that the only gift I knew about, was the one my husband and I gave him/his bride. We never mentioned it, neither did they. I only asked about their timing for sending out thank you notes.
@Mj12 wrote:
@panda1234 wrote:
@Shorty2U wrote:
My son just got married .. Most gave 100 to 150 or 200 (and some close as in immediate family members and the couples employers gave more as they are the ones that gave 200 and up). Id say the average was 100 though. (There were a few that gave less than 100 but only a few) I say give what you can afford if you are not that close. Close and immediate family usually give the most (is what I saw)
@Shorty2U This is off topic, but I wanted to ask you something. My son is getting married in the fall. I am going to be interested to know what our side gave as gifts $$. My question is, how were you able to find this out? I would never ask and he would never say unless I asked. I guess I am not going to find out.
@panda1234 My stepson was married last year - I can honestly say that the only gift I knew about, was the one my husband and I gave him/his bride. We never mentioned it, neither did they. I only asked about their timing for sending out thank you notes.

@Shorty2U Thank you, I guess there are some things we will never know.

PatriciaG · ‎03-21-2017

@JeanLouiseFinch So was the purpose of inviting people to a wedding is just to receive gifts and money? That an invited guest is expected to pay the cost of their attendance? Something is wrong with that. I thought the purpose was to share in the celebration of wedding. Why not charge at the door?

jannabelle1 · ‎09-12-2010

After reading the comments here, I think the amount depends on what part of the country a person is from. I live in the Midwest, and would never consider giving $500 as a wedding gift to anyone except a grandchild. The norm in my area for most people would be $50 to $100 for a friend's child - and that $100 would only work for me if the friend was extremely close. Call us cheap, but our cost of living isn't as high here as either of the coasts, and most couples would be shocked to receive a $500 check from someone they barely know.