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[LuvmyLab]

I would keep doing what you are doing. If her thinking she is giving the clothes to you helps keep her purging and cleaning things up, keep it up. Besides, you are doing a good think by donating the items. 

[must shop]

Hoarding is a mental health disorder and needs to be trated bya proffesional. You need to get your sister into therapy.

[mom2four0418]

Hopefully, your sister is under the care of a mental health professional.  

[occasionalrain]

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@must shop wrote:

Hoarding is a mental health disorder and needs to be trated bya proffesional. You need to get your sister into therapy.

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Every eccentricity is a mental health issue in one way or another. As long as her hoarding isn't endangering her health and she continues to purge, don't push therapy on her.

[kaydee50]

@northiie57   IMO, yes you are doing the right thing.  Don't see why you would hesitate continuing to do what you're doing.

[suzyQ3]

I strongly suggest that you NOT tell her anything unless she asks. I think it's a good sign that she hasn't asked. Maybe it means that she just cares about unloading.

I, too, think that she would benefit by seeking help.

[occasionalrain]

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@suzyQ3 wrote:

I strongly suggest that you NOT tell her anything unless she asks. I think it's a good sign that she hasn't asked. Maybe it means that she just cares about unloading.

I, too, think that she would benefit by seeking help.

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For some, more likely many, therapy becomes an addiction in and of itself. 

In conversations, reference to their therapist is common. Years of therapy with no end in sight, rather an unhealthy on going dependence on their therapist.

That's not to say that therapy isn't needed and worthwhile in some cases.

[jellyBEAN]

I would remain mum about what you are doing by donating her clothes.  Just accept them as you have been and stay quiet.

If she finds out you have just been donating them she may stop her purging entirely.  Thankfully she is just hoarding clothing.  If she ever asks you about a particular item of clothing and wants it back, you can then tell her you tried it on and it didn't fit, so you gave it to someone else.

Ignorance is bliss.

[suzyQ3]

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@occasionalrain wrote:

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@suzyQ3 wrote:

I strongly suggest that you NOT tell her anything unless she asks. I think it's a good sign that she hasn't asked. Maybe it means that she just cares about unloading.

I, too, think that she would benefit by seeking help.

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For some, more likely many, therapy becomes an addiction in and of itself. 

In conversations, reference to their therapist is common. Years of therapy with no end in sight, rather an unhealthy on going dependence on their therapist.

That's not to say that therapy isn't needed and worthwhile in some cases.

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I think this a bit of an understatement thrown in just for good measure, @occasionalrain 

[Imaoldhippie]

In my opinion yes you are doing the right thing.