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[VioletEyes]

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[Moonchilde]

The OP hasn't said, but is there some reason to do with the condo purchase so that someone should be there? Three months is a long time to leave a condo unoccupied with belongings in it. Or does he need to be there to receive furniture, etc? Is this a new permanent home or just a vacation home? Lots insaid here.

[croemer]

On 3/13/2015 KittyLouSoutenu said:

On 3/13/2015 banjo said:

On 3/12/2015 traveler said:

Sorry, I can't relate. DH was in military for 24years and often lived someplace else. Then the last 6 years he lived alone in Alaska for 6 months while I returned to Michigan every summer. And you just have to wait 3 months?

I hear you! My husband was in the Air Force for 30 years, we were separated by his duty anywhere from a few days to 1 year. It is what it is. 3 months is nothing. The OP should do something to keep herself occupied instead of whining.

Isn't career related absence a little different than the OP's scenario?

Yes it is....my DH travels and is gone many...many months a year and I have learned to accept that is his job and what supports us.

I think the problem is the O/P feels he isn't going to miss her...didn't give it a thought and is out of there to Florida with no second thoughts of missing her?

[sidsmom]

Even before opening threads like this (question in the title), I always think "yes"....haven't been disappointed yet.

You've been training him for 40 years...and a good job @ it, to boot. He's just doing what you've taught him for a greater part of his life.

[Free2be]

He's obviously excited to get on with this new chapter of your lives. Make the best of having the house to yourself, talk to him once a day, minimum, more if you can think of things to talk about. He should have plenty to share about his new experiences.

Be happy for him, show interest. Resent the situation, not him. There is no pay-off in him being unsatisfied or bored at the house for 3 months. Consider retiring earlier than you planned, would the world come crashing down?

[jubilant]

Have you ever been in a situation in your marriage where you felt nothing was going your way, your ideas were not getting addressed at all and it seemed to be very one sided? Then one day something happens (and it may not be nearly the worst thing that has ever happened..... but.... for some reason.... that day you just reached your limits.....even though. Why that thing? Why that day? Who knows? The thing is.....something led up to it. Probably a lot if things. Maybe years of things. They're her feelings and she needs to address them....not bury them.

[Elstongunn]

Should've given him a ""honey-do"" list to keep him busy those three months.

[Joey Heatherton]

I agree that it's much too late to teach your old pup any new tricks, ditzy dori..........but I understand your disappointment........moving forward, you've earned the right to a happy retirement so try your best to shake things off .........or else your retired 24/7 hubby will drive you ca-raaazy!..................congratulations on your next chapter! :-)

[Melania]

Enjoy your new place!! How exciting!!

Maybe this is good time you to have your time to yourself while he's away. You say he's a me me person so it's your turn. Think of it like that and enjoy not having to work around him and his wants.

But be prepared when you both are not working that this will become more magnified unless you find common interests and your own activities. Otherwise you are going to be alone and noticing it even more.

[VioletEyes]

Ditzi dori, I remember something about your son living with you? I was wondering is he still living with you? Perhaps, your husband just needed to get away from a situation that was difficult to deal with?

Just asking because it would shed a completely different light on why he might have wanted to go to Florida...