Community Chat

[Cuckoo Bird]

One day I decided to look at my husband's American Express statement out of curiousity and to my surprise I see that he purchased a couple pair of earrings and a necklace from the Brighton store in Las Vegas. He was there awhile back on a business trip. Since he hadn't given this jewelry to me I naturally wanted to know who he gave them to. When I confronted him, he admitted that he purchased them for a couple of the waitresses from the restaurant where he meets his buddies for breakfast every morning. He said it was meant to be a gift from him and his buddies because the waitresses make them feel like family. He said it was no big deal and that the jewelry was some kind of promotion from American Express, I believe. I said if it was no big deal how come he never mentioned it to me? He said he didn't think it was worth mentioning but I maintain that it was because he knew it was inappropriate to be buying jewelry for other women and he knew I wouldn't like it.

Oh, and when I went through his bank statements I found out he had given a check for $500.00 to one of the waitresses last Christmas Eve. He said again that was from him and his buddies and that money was for all the waitressess there to share.

These same waitresses have also given my husband cologne for his birthday and I do not think this is appropriate.

I also found out that he sometimes looks at their Facebook pages although they are not Facebook friends. Keep in mind that my husband is in his sixties and some of these girls are in their twenties.

We've been married for 30 years and he's never given me reason to be suspicious of him but I don't like this exchanging of presents between him and those girls. I find it very disrespectful to me.

What do you all think of this behavior? Do I have a right to be upset or am I barking up the wrong tree?