Always Apologetic - Page 2

stevieb · ‎03-10-2010

@DoneTryin wrote:
@stevieb wrote:
Unless it directly impacts me, I don't tend to worry about it...
@stevieb Wouldn't have mentioned it if it didn't

Good to know @DoneTryin, but you know, on these boards, and in life, there are those who would mention it just out of 'principle'... whether it involved them one way or the other or not.

In my pantry with my cupcakes...

truffle · ‎01-04-2016

People who are habitually late must be very unorganized at home and I don't think they should have important responsibilities at work (such as attending meetings) as obviously they can't handle life in general, it seems.

Noel7 · ‎03-09-2010

@Blahblahvampemer wrote:
Unless I HAVE to deal with them, as in family or business, I dump their backside out of my life. No kidding. People who are habitually late are showing a great deal of contempt for others.

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@Blahblahvampemer

Being continually late is a classic sign of ADD. ADD has to do with the way their brain is wired. That has been tested and researched and is an accepted fact. They simply cannot get it together.

I worked with someone like that. He was brilliant, kind and generous... and always late. We used to tell him a meeting started at 10 am, just so he would be there by 10:30.

He has become my lifelong friend, like a brother, and I love him. He is my daughter's Godfather and I am like the Godmother to his children.

chickenbutt · ‎03-09-2010

Interesting, Noel! Unfortunately, I never knew any chronically late people who were like your co-worker. The only ones I've known just plain didn't care. Well, maybe that was part of it - the part where they should have considered the feelings of others just was corrupted. Hmmm...something to think about.

But for me they just always thought it was funny and cute. I cannot tell you how many times I heard 'oh, hahahahaha - I'd be late to my own funeral'. Uh, ok. hehe

I guess I'm just wired in the extreme opposite in that I will always do what it takes to be on time - early actually. But in situations where you cannot just show up early, like at somebody's house or something, I'd just park down the street and wait. I have great respect for meeting a commitment.

DiAnne · ‎09-22-2010

My sister has always been late to family events, holiday dinners, etc. It is extremely bad manners to hold up a dinner one hour because you cannot be on time. Once I started doing the holiday dinners they were served at the time stated. After missing dinner a couple of times she managed to be on time.

Noel7 · ‎03-09-2010

Running Late? Adult ADD Time Management Tips Why ADD adults are usually late...

http://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/935.html

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Never Be Late Again

One of the largest complaints of adults with ADD/ADHD is their chronic tardiness.

http://www.healthcentral.com/adhd/adult-adhd-190457-5.html

Noel7 · ‎03-09-2010

@chickenbutt wrote:
Interesting, Noel! Unfortunately, I never knew any chronically late people who were like your co-worker. The only ones I've known just plain didn't care. Well, maybe that was part of it - the part where they should have considered the feelings of others just was corrupted. Hmmm...something to think about.

But for me they just always thought it was funny and cute. I cannot tell you how many times I heard 'oh, hahahahaha - I'd be late to my own funeral'. Uh, ok. hehe

I guess I'm just wired in the extreme opposite in that I will always do what it takes to be on time - early actually. But in situations where you cannot just show up early, like at somebody's house or something, I'd just park down the street and wait. I have great respect for meeting a commitment.

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@chickenbutt

Hi CB, I suspect those you knew used those behaviors as a coping/defense mechanism.

They probably also had no idea why they were different. Even now, a lot of people don't go for help with the problem because they don't even know they might be helped.

truffle · ‎01-04-2016

I find it difficult to be so forgiving when it is discovered that precious time was spent on social media instead of meeting your obligations. People nowadays can't separate themselves from their electronic toys.

chickenbutt · ‎03-09-2010

That's a good point, Noel!

I never thought of 'coping mechanism'. It translated to me as 'oh ha ha I don't care that I held everybody else up, so get over it'. Live and learn, eh?

I've actually been working hard, the last few years, at opening my mind up more at the things that really bother me. Clearly, this has always been one of them since I fancy myself so responsible. That makes the 'always late, never seeming to care' thing translate as irresponsible in my brain.

Sometimes i probably have too large a sense of order and sense of justice.