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Knowing what you know now, what advice would you give your 20 year old self?
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I'd tell my 20 year old self -


Education is critical.  Go to college right out of high school and get your degree.


Be yourself.


Relax. Being Type A isn't all there is.  


Do your best at whatever you do.


Take some risks. Don't beat yourself up when you make a mistake. Every human makes mistakes.


Enjoy life. Stop and smell the roses. Life goes so fast. Take time to live it.


Be kind, inclusive, charitable, accepting, peaceful, patient, loving, gentle, tolerant (even to stupid people), and the like.


Get a dog.  (Waiting until I was 60 was a mistake.)



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Always tell the people that you love, you love them


Smile more


I would tell myself to worry less


Take delight in little things such as: butterflies, small children playing and laughing.  Holding hands with someone you love.


it's ok to say NO


Don't try to be all things to all people because because it's impossible.


If there is a toxic person in your life, get them out of your life sooner rather than later


In a world where you can be anything, BE KIND



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Along with others have said, I'd never have gotten married, ever.

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There are aspects of my 20 year old self that I remember to savor and enjoy, but oh, boy, since you are asking, there are some deficits that I could have addressed sooner.  I do think youth has certain blind spots in general, and in particular, I personally had plenty.


Work harder, play harder. 


Have a plan for the future.  Exercise thrift, and save responsibly.


Don't take my faith for granted.  Make worship and relationship to my Creator the most central aspect of my life.  (I trust this doesn't violate any QVC rules-- I'm not advocating this for anyone else, just answering the question as to what I, personally, would do differently in my life.)


Understand that due to simple lack of experience, I don't have all the wisdom I'd like, and therefore:  listen more to trusted mentors who have my best interest at heart.


Exercise charity, love and understanding, even when that comes hard.


Cherish even more every second with my parents;  never lose even one opportunity with them.


Meet my husband sooner than I did, ha!








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work to make your part of the world a better place but start with yourself.

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I would suggest to have listened more to my elders, parents and grandparents.

They had such a history and knowledge that you will never have the opportunity to learn once they are gone from this earth.  

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Be kind, always, to everyone.

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Don't spend so much money on Christmas decorations.  When you're 64, you won't want ALL that stuff anymore.  Less is more.


Why is it, when I have a 50/50 guess at something, I'm always 100% wrong?
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Stay with the one who was my soul mate, my love and the one I would always love.