On 10/13/2014 qvcaddition said: Thank you everyone for your supportive comments. I just canceled around 200dollars of advance toy the Frozen series dolls and necklace and track set. I will spend the money on a bus trip in Jan. I spoke to my son through e mail telling him what I was going to do, he is too busy to talk by phone, he agreed with me about the toys.
For a few years I spent Christmas either with a friend who has no family or by myself because of the treatment. Last year I decided to go to my Daughters again because I was told I am the one that left the family. It was the same thing again. I do not need constant attention, I am very active with all my volunteering and gym and dog, going to plays and bus trips and friends. Except for my dog, non of the rest can take the place of family, but it is not to be for me. I do count my blessings that I can take care of myself and am in good heath and that is very important.
So I will enjoy the time with those who I have fun with, my loving fur friend and forget the rest. Thanks again. In fact, I just got off the phone with a friend of 54 years and she was so happy I decided to cancel the toys. She said, I am so happy, you have done more than anyone I know for your family and it is their lost, but they are too ignorant to see it now, but they will in time. She has known me since my 53 year old was born, who does help me when I need it. He has no children. Thanks again, life goes on. In fact, I went to the beach today with my dog and we had fun.
Your son is too busy to talk by phone? I worked 70 hrs a week as a single mom and I could find the time to talk with my mother. I also don't understand your son saying that his son just couldn't connect with you. What does that even mean? He obviously felt enough of a connection to you to get money from you. What did your son say when you told him he felt connected enough to ask for money. I know it isn't always the case but I do believe children (and grown children) not being gracious about gifts/money is the direct result of parenting and when you tell me your son doesn't have time to talk to you over this it makes me think it even more.
Not only would I not buy them gifts anymore, I would let them know exactly why.
My daughter is 25 and I still make sure she follows up with a note and a phone call after receiving something. I know I probably shouldn't because she is grown but that type of thing is very important to me. Someone took the time to spend time and money picking something out for her and I would just not sit by if she didn't respond. She had a baby in July and my great aunt, aunts, cousins and other family members have been sending stuff for the baby. In addition to hand written thank you notes and telephone calls, she takes a picture of the baby with the gift and puts that picture on the senders Facebook page, saying thank you aunt so and so, as you can see I look pretty adorable in my new jammies that you sent me. That way they can see the baby with the gift. IMO, that is the least someone can do. It only takes a few minutes to write a thank you note or make a phone call to say thank you for thinking about me enough to send me something and to tell them how much it means.
We are definitely a country of shrinking manners and it is the parents responsibility to teach their children what the proper thing to do is.
I am very sorry you are going through this. The older members of our family are revered and loved very much. Their experiences with life are very much appreciated and I am so sorry you aren't getting the same treatment. Hugs to you!
Those who make peaceful revolution impossible will make violent revolution inevitable.
JFK
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