@RealtyGal2... Hmmm... Mothers!!! There are 2 kinds I believe. One is the type of Mom who loves you unconditionally and treats you with the same respect that you treat her. She never says anything hurtful to you and only wants the best for you.
Then there is Mother #2. I had her for a Mother. I was thin (100 lbs.) up to age 45 then my metabolism came to a screeching halt...either that or I lost my Dad at age 45. I started gaining weight which shocked me because I never had a problem with it. I put on over 50 lbs from age 45 to 65. I remember about 10-15 years ago I was in the kitchen and she said to me "Move your fat a*****!" I was shocked. I told her that was not nice! She just said she wasn't used to me being heavier. She just laughed. She was nasty to me all my life.
You are my age, 70. I cannot believe your mother, age 96, is still mentioning your weight to you!! If she's doing that now she's probably been saying that for a long time. Am I right? I'm sorry for that...very sorry because words HURT!! She will never stop so don't expect her to. For some reason she's getting a "kick" out of talking that way to you about your weight and that is WRONG!! Who does she think she is talking to you like that? She's suppose to build you up... tell you that you look pretty in what you're wearing and how pretty your hair looks and other compliments.
I used to call my mother "Dr. Jekkyl/Mrs. Hyde" because I never knew when she was going to stab me in the back and it started when I was young. There were 4 of us kids... 2 boys and 2 girls but I was the "target" like her mother was with her. I moved out of town at age 20 to get away from her...but every time I had a vacation week she wanted me to spend it there with her and my Dad. We would have good times... taking her to the doctors, go shopping then for something to eat later; Christmas shopping in our small town downtown area; other times ... but it got so bad I had a difficult time driving out there (3 hours away). My Dad passed and she got worse.
I remember when I finally told her off. I was sitting at the kitchen table and she came in and said something mean. I had had it. I looked at her, pointing my finger at her and said "That is the LAST time you are ever going to talk to me like that and if you do it again I will NEVER come back here...ever!!" She looked shocked and left the room. As it turned out, I never did go back there to stay with her because a few weeks later she broke her hip and fell....hospital, surgery, rehab, moved to a small apartment at my brother's. I stayed with her after I retired for 41 nights at my brother's apartment and she was a lot nicer to me. Different environment? I don't know. I doubt she thought over what I said. That's not like her to think that way. I think she was starting to get dementia or ...? I was happy that she was much easier to get along with but unfortunately the damage was already done to me...after years of verbal and emotional abuse. Depression... She passed about 7 years ago and I don't miss her. Well, maybe I do miss the good times we had but I certainly don't miss the bad.
I hope you haven't gone through what I have but you do have to put your foot down...and NO, she is NOT coming from a good place like you said!! Who does she think she is speaking like that to her daughter. End the remarks about you NOW and about your nieces because she has NO RIGHT speaking to anyone that way!!
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