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[Stormygirl]

@Moonchilde @dex Hugs to you both I miss you! I needed to take my mind off of the pain today and figured maybe this would help. @Moonchilde I wrote you an e-mail today and sent the article dated 1960 ...ughhh was a shocker. Thank you for keeping everyone updated through the months I have not been able to post xxxxxxxxxxx Stormy

[RedTop]

I trust my husband, my two daughters, my mother, and my two brothers.  I also have four very, very close friends I trust.   

[Junebug54]

@Moonchilde After reading your post I sincerely apologize to you for our misunderstanding a few days ago.    I understand now and hope you accept.    My best to you.     Losing trust is difficult and takes a long time to regain.   Again sorry.

[Financialgrl]

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@deepwaterdotter wrote:

My lyin' eyes.

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Exactly.  I always assess situations and if hard decisions are to be made or not evidently clear as how to proceed I always break it down into best case/worst case scenario.  I always proceed/act based on the worst happening and have learned  that if I'm ready for that and it doesn't happen, there's no place to go but up, if the worst happens I'm not devastated.  Not for everyone but I can honestly say it's rarely let me down.

[goldensrbest]

@hckynut,Did you feel compelled to correct her post?

[Cakers3]

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@hckynut wrote:

@Moonchilde

My young life experiences were pretty much the opposite of yours. Like you, I carried my young life over into adulthood, and up and into my "golden years". I can't imagine being happy and living a fun and satisfying life if I trusted no one. I know I couldn't.

Sure, I have been kicked in the butt many times, some much worse than others. Those experiences however have never led me to not trust everyone because a small percentage of those I trusted hit me where it hurts most. Life, for myself anyways, is too short to live trusting no one.

hckynut

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@hckynut  I agree with this post and the one you posted above.

"Trust" is subjective; family, friends, doctors, co-workers, posters here-it's all in our perception of real vs. imagined slights we feel regarding anyone.

Granted, being robbed in a scam or taken advantage of by a loved one are obvious reasons to mistrust a certain person ever again.

One incident of being hurt by another is no reason not to "trust" anyone ever again.

Who a person is will be evident enough in time;  our own common sense needs to be expanded rather than a sense of mistrust across the board.

[Greeneyedlady21]

I trust my mother, God, a man in my life who has treated me so well (a friend, not romantic), and a couple of female friends.

Trusting too much has gotten me burned. It doesn't mean I don't trust as a result, but my guard is always up because it has to be. I can't sacrifice myself for some ideal that doesn't always turn out to be ideal at all.

[Moonchilde]

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@Cakers3 wrote:

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@hckynut wrote:

@Moonchilde

My young life experiences were pretty much the opposite of yours. Like you, I carried my young life over into adulthood, and up and into my "golden years". I can't imagine being happy and living a fun and satisfying life if I trusted no one. I know I couldn't.

Sure, I have been kicked in the butt many times, some much worse than others. Those experiences however have never led me to not trust everyone because a small percentage of those I trusted hit me where it hurts most. Life, for myself anyways, is too short to live trusting no one.

hckynut

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@hckynut  I agree with this post and the one you posted above.

"Trust" is subjective; family, friends, doctors, co-workers, posters here-it's all in our perception of real vs. imagined slights we feel regarding anyone.

Granted, being robbed in a scam or taken advantage of by a loved one are obvious reasons to mistrust a certain person ever again.

One incident of being hurt by another is no reason not to "trust" anyone ever again.

Who a person is will be evident enough in time;  our own common sense needs to be expanded rather than a sense of mistrust across the board.

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LOL.

I had actually composed another entire post, clarifying and qualifying my first post, before I saw this one. It was not “in response” to hckynut’s post either, but more that I felt a desire to clarify regarding the general conversation and the thoughts of others in the thread. However, I hesitated before I hit Post, and then canceled it.

The reason I decided “never mind” is illustrated excellently by your post - thank you for validating my decision.

It’s so easy to invalidate and dismiss the thoughts and feelings of others - because you “just know” that their feelings are invalid, whereas of course yours couldn’t possibly be, right?

[Stormygirl]

@Moonchilde exactly...truth be told made me feel I am somehow damaged goods in that  I "have not expanded my senses" Oh well I will go sit in a corner feeling invalidated LOL.

[Greeneyedlady21]

I think it's up to every individual to decide for him/her self what to do about trusting others. Not up to anyone else to decide for them or judge them for it. That's just my humble opinion.