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A Matter of Trust

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I would say yes in my younger life, I was naive and easily manipulated . . . no in the last two decades.  In fact, since age 60 I have practically no trust in anything or anyone (exception: my three daughters and my one brother). 

 

Who and what do you really trust anymore?

 

 

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My lyin' eyes.

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Sadly, not even relatives.  

At the age of 67, only myself and my gut.

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I trust God, and that's it.

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Pastor and 1 of my sisters

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As far as people in general, I trust all of them I meet, personally, until they give me a reason not to. Doing business is another story, unless I know them well through prior dealings, or have found no reason not to trust them.

 

I trust my doctors and the few I have left in my immediate family: 2 older sisters/brother-in-law, and my wife. Never believed in judging anyone negatively unless and until they gave me a reason to do so.

 

 

 

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I learned not to trust anyone but myself in adolescence, and that has never changed. No one will seriously pitch in, help, take care of/take over things or even offer moral support.

 

We live in a selfish world. I used to get hurt when doing for and supporting others and at some point getting ignored or rebuffed by those I’d supported - so I stopped being the giving, open person I started out in life to be. The point seemed to be only getting repeatedly smacked due to my own unselfish, loving actions. No point. I don’t need rewards and constant pats on the back, but I don’t need another kick in the teeth either.

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I guess I am pretty trusting. I trust everyone, until they prove to me they can't be trusted

 

My friends and family have always been honest with me.  I can't  think of any medical people who have not given us good treatment

 

My DDS is a star. A crown broke and he replaced it for free. It was a year old , and he said it doesn't matter, I stand behind my work

 

He is a fine man, religous, kind ,and generous, and so is his family. They are all honest good people

 

Maybe I have just been lucky?

 

 

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Re: A Matter of Trust

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@Moonchilde wrote:

I learned not to trust anyone but myself in adolescence, and that has never changed. No one will seriously pitch in, help, take care of/take over things or even offer moral support.

 

We live in a selfish world. I used to get hurt when doing for and supporting others and at some point getting ignored or rebuffed by those I’d supported - so I stopped being the giving, open person I started out in life to be. The point seemed to be only getting repeatedly smacked due to my own unselfish, loving actions. No point. I don’t need rewards and constant pats on the back, but I don’t need another kick in the teeth either.


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With the exception of my exception . . . I'm with you.  Just started realizing later in life, that's all.  Not that I learned anything, as I'm still giving it all away.

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@Moonchilde

 

My young life experiences were pretty much the opposite of yours. Like you, I carried my young life over into adulthood, and up and into my "golden years". I can't imagine being happy and living a fun and satisfying life if I trusted no one. I know I couldn't.

 

Sure, I have been kicked in the butt many times, some much worse than others. Those experiences however have never led me to not trust everyone because a small percentage of those I trusted hit me where it hurts most. Life, for myself anyways, is too short to live trusting no one.

 

 

 

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